@growwithkaela: When you understand an avoidant, you feel closer to them. But they’ll just push you further away because being seen means they no longer have control. They feel much safer when they keep you guessing.
Yeah once you seen through it they became very quick to move on with someone new .
2026-07-31 23:55:48
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Andrew :
This is a dangerous place for an empath.
2026-08-01 02:40:49
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Anitaforeman76 :
It’s the most bizarre thing I’ve ever experienced.
2026-08-01 03:01:00
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Dustin :
Told me “you’re hyperfixing on trying to understand me” as if trying to build a relationship isn’t about getting to know the real them. It’s just a shame. They think you’re the problem lol
2026-08-01 04:13:57
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Kev B :
So…just sociopaths. Gotcha.
2026-08-01 00:13:43
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bestdamnavocados :
this happened to me. I got the closest to him out of everyone he knew. he wasn't close with hardly anyone so he had a lot of low maintenance friendships to keep him occupied. and he just kept pulling away and coming back because he didn't know what he really wanted and his actions wouldn't match his words. but it was clear that the closeness upset him :/
2026-08-01 00:15:51
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Chrissy Diluglio :
It’s like being with the worst partner you could ever imagine being with
2026-08-01 01:57:29
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JetsettingGinger :
He was mirroring me. He had no identity outside of his Mom who he is enmeshed with.
2026-08-01 13:10:20
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Rex0044 :
the amount and projection and confessions disguised as accusations avoidants make is wild.
2026-08-01 22:43:32
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N :
Its weird. Mine used to say how i knew him so well and that no one else understood them like i did.
2026-08-15 20:41:00
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Status Quo Open Road :
Such a great piece of avoidant information. So held up.
2026-07-31 22:31:15
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Ana Grace :
Why they lie about everything
2026-09-05 13:58:31
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𝔪𝔞𝔯𝔦 :
Ohhhh this is why he told me he felt “studied” by me
2026-08-21 18:05:59
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Karenscourt :
I am getting a very clear picture on this attachment, but the hardest part of this for me is WHY am I attracted to this type of person?
2026-09-24 11:11:19
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rockera :
His LinkedIn contains all his info, when I ask him what he does at his job (he's an engineer) he says it's a secret 😅 The more he cares about me, the less he says about him.
2026-07-31 22:35:15
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Str8t2thecomments81 :
spot on!!!!
2026-08-02 22:03:06
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Lolli :
The safest place for an avoidant is you being destabilized, over giving, and more dedicated/in love than them
2026-08-01 12:54:08
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𝕽𝕽 :
Not true for FA’s (Fearful Avoidants). We NEED to be seen, heard, understood & fully known in order to feel loved.
2026-08-03 02:13:57
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Cosmic928 :
I don’t know what it is but I just play the middle ground 99% of the time there’s maybe 2 people on this planet that know my true feelings and self and even then they only know probably 75% of the true me.
2026-08-02 12:15:35
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Jado132 :
My ex actually got mad when I originally could read her feelings. She told me something like "you don't even know me" when I could list off so many things about her. I wish I knew better how to handle how she was feeling before. I never wanted to push her by saying the things that would trigger her wounds too much.
2026-08-02 19:52:02
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Jay :
They want you close enough to love them for who are… but at the same time they want to push you away because you see them for who they are… and will go to the extremes by causing chaos and self sabotaging just for them to say “See, I’m not worthy of love…”
2026-09-07 05:16:29
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randomlocodude :
I need to see this videos right now.
2026-08-05 22:42:01
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NA :
😂😂😂 You can’t even make this shit up
2026-07-31 22:23:29
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