@therealnorthdakotaa:

Xe :

Struggling w something with my partner; They started here, but now their "defense" is to reassure me instead. When I say "This hurt me" they go "I didnt mean to hurt you, I'm apologizing. And since I wasn't "defending" myself in my response, we are good now." Like... No. You erased my hurt without actually discussing what happened- Another way to avoid conflict (which creates true change and growth) and feels like another defense tactic on its own

nona :

Not growing emotionally is a poison to relating!

drake :

I was told by my ex that they wanted me to give them my unfiltered, unprocessed feelings right when I felt them, but every time I got the courage to be like "hey this hurts me" they would act like it was a slight against them. Led to me not wanting to bring things up even more because how am I supposed to address things when it turns into "wow I'm such a bad person". They even once told me to tell them what things they were doing right after I brought up something that was hurting me

Very Wendy :

you nailed it

Lauren 🌿 :

What helped you on your journey to becoming more emotionally mature?

GuitarGirl :

I was, too. Until my daughter created boundaries with me. Made me realize that I needed to do something about it. We now are the closest we’ve ever been. 🥹🙏🏻

Little Liam’s Journey :

What about when they say you’re bad, you did wrong, you’re no good, you act like a female, this is the worst relationship I’ve ever been in, comparing you to exes, literally insulting you, and more?

earthfullyone :

my past friend I realized I can get through her had to let her go

posty912 :

What happens if you didn’t actually do what you’re accused of?

Cigarettes & Silence :

I enjoy your content but I’ve really enjoyed your journey

@Hemophobic :

I married a woman like that. She was willing to destroy our family and divorce rather than apologize for calling me slurs. And without accountability, behavior never changes.

Treihugir :

DepressinglyGlutenFree :

Literally just stopped being friends with someone cause of this. She was committed to misunderstanding me. So I’m done. Don’t have the energy for it

Shannon Volk :

Conflict is expected in every relationship. Healthy relationships work on a solution together and not fight to be right. Help me understand or what do you need from me right now are some things to say during conflict….

TaraQT 🆘 🇺🇸 💙 :

Louder

Chyna Aliyá :

THIS

b241851 :

Yes

IsekaiMePls🌎 :

thank you for posting

Salty April 😉🤍 :

My sister 😏

Abby Wilson 🎀 :

This 💯💯💯

Samantha Kupchanko :

I. NEEDED. THIS. 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

Lori Henely :

absolutely 💯

Malik :

I wish communication was more common than holding things in.

glendathegoodwitch4 :

Yes

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