@dctibbsesq: #weightloss #weight #thick #change #fiance

LCWA :

If he’s saying it now before they’re even married it’s not ever going to get better. It’s easy to be attracted to someone who’s got a great in shape body. That’s not love. Love is when you find them beautiful no matter what because marriage is supposed to last until your skin is sagging off and you’re too fat or too skinny and your body is falling apart. Otherwise wtf is the point?

Sophie Bear :

I agree.Never marry someone who is not attracted to you. Also, why would you propose to someone you are not attracted to?

Polly (yes really) :

My ex told me I wasn’t aging well and had gained too much weight. He wanted to stay together but didn’t want to have to touch me (his words.) So anyway I’m single now. I hope she didn’t marry this guy.

PetsGalor :

He is setting up the relationship to use her weight to manipulate her throughout their marriage. If she turns this back on herself and accepts the responsibility to “get healthier” based on his feedback, he will know that he can now use her other insecurities to manipulate her even further. It’s happened in thousands of marriages. Her situation is not specific to her. It’s in the manipulator’s playbook. If she internalizes this, she is setting herself up for ongoing manipulation masked as “love.”

Kearstyn Butera :

My ex who I was with for over 10 years told me I was too fat for him, I lost over 100lbs, still wasn’t good enough, so divorce 👏 he’s with someone now that was bigger than I ever was. It was NEVER about the weight.

oldshoes_ :

So if he isn’t attracted to her how are they engaged?

MAMFunn :

What??? Ummmmmm, if you’re not attracted to me…… then why are you marrying me???

Only Truth :

I don't get why she isn't questioning why he's marrying a woman he's not attracted to. Also, he didn't say "anymore". Just "I'm not attracted to you." 🚩🚩🚩

Laura :

To the question asker- yikes, do not marry that guy! That question is really a bid for reassurance and he provided the opposite. There are guys out there who will love you and treat you well, please don’t settle.

Em :

I’m so thankful to have someone that’s been attracted to me at 120-200 and everywhere in between. This girl deserves so much better

Michelle Naomi Mack :

Break it off with him. Who wants to be married to someone who isn’t attracted to you?

RevFatherPaul :

Agreed. The only acceptable answer would be "there's nothing I want to change about you."

JamJam :

if they're not attracted to you, it's no longer a romantic relationship... why yall still engaged? that's your acquaintance, not your husband.

SeriouslyStecky :

Why would you even want to be with someone who isn’t attracted to you? You deserve to feel loved & wanted.

karrrun0 :

there's someone out there for you. he is not the one.

Sakinah :

Let that man go

Hattybrd :

You need to run. This isn’ a relationship that will work. You need to marry someone who can’t keep his hands off of you.

HF :

Hey man, who would talk to you that way, in a way that undermined your confidence and is simply mean, it’s not a good part. I’m probably not capable of actually loving anybody. His love for you is conditional. He can want you to be healthy and talk about your fitness without being mean or selfish. Your body is not about him. It’s about you.

Audrey Galli :

He wants her to break off the engagement. She should do it.

lunataur :

DWR-TX :

I agree! You can’t marry someone who isn’t into you. Also it’s more sinister that he’s with her because he flat knows he’s not into her. In my mind that means if she does work to lose weight he will see that as him having power over her. Run, girl, find someone who isn’t so shallow and if you decide to have a glow up it’s for you not him.

SloMzO :

For a marriage to work it’s best that the partners are auto each other both physically (good) and emotionally (best). One lasts a lot longer than the other and an emotional attraction leads to a physical attraction in many cases.

shantelreed4950 :

The relationship has been over.

Chantell :

Damn