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Yes. I’m not proud of it, but I can genuinely explain the thought process because I’ve lived it, and I’m still working on understanding it. For me, it started with my relationship lacking something. Then someone else came along who seemed to give me exactly what was missing, maybe they were more attractive, had qualities I wished my partner had, or seemed to have future goals that aligned more with mine. Your mind starts convincing you that because they have something your partner doesn’t, they must therefore be better for you. Then it becomes a cycle. One conversation becomes texting, texting becomes excitement, excitement becomes secrecy, and suddenly you’re emotionally invested. You start comparing your real relationship, with all its flaws and history, to someone you’re only experiencing the exciting side of. And when people say, “Why not just leave?” logically, they’re right. But emotionally, it’s harder. As awful as it sounds, there’s comfort in knowing you still have someone who loves you, somewhere familiar and safe to come home to, while you’re chasing something new behind their back. Deep down you know it can’t last forever and eventually you’ll have to choose, but avoiding that decision feels easier in the moment. None of that excuses cheating. It’s selfish and unfair, and I take accountability for that. I just think understanding why someone does something and excusing it are two completely different things.
2026-08-26 17:06:16