@lesliewellsconnectcoach: Things I personally believe impact the “once a cheater always a cheater” in an individual (some of this is from research, some from observation in my practice): 1. Their history/nature of affair(s) 2. Whether or not they seek intervention (without prompting or being coerced or forced) 3. Confession vs discovery 4. True remorse versus shame, guilt, feeling bad (emotions are fleeting, commitment to change isn’t) 5. Willing to learn and confront root causes, discover the contributing factors to their “why”, heal attachment wounds and traumas 6. Taking accountability (FULL accountability without blame or deflection) 7. How they show up in the repair journey (this is KEY)-can they hang in the hard for a VERY long time and learn to stay safe, grounded, present, emotionally present? Can they see the damage they caused daily and not collapse but show up in it? 8. They are self-accountable rather than accountable to others or the perceptions of others. 9. Do they lean on faith? This isn’t a must to not stay a cheater but it often offers unmatched tools and helps transform from heart posture rather than just behavioral modification (in my personal opinion). It also just offers hope for the person who desires to change-and that belief tremendously helps with change because we can’t really change what we don’t believe at a deep subconscious level. #infidelity #cheating #relationships #betrayaltrauma #betrayal

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