@mightyyyymouse: I told my therapist “I do everything on my own, that’s just how I am.” He didn’t ask why. He just said: “That’s not independence. That’s GRIEF.” And it wrecked me, because he was right. Grief for every time you reached out and nobody came. Grief for being the one holding everything together while falling apart inside. Grief for learning way too young that depending on people gets you HURT. So you adapted. You became the one who handles everything. Thinks three steps ahead. Reads the tone in every text, checks the locks twice, scans every room. The one who says “I got it” while drowning. People call it independent. They have no idea. They don’t see what it costs to be the strong one every single day of your life. They don’t know that “I don’t need anybody” is what a heart says after it needed somebody and paid for it. And if you loved a narcissist, they took what was left. Every time you leaned on them, it got used against you later. So you stopped leaning on ANYONE. That’s not your personality. That’s a scar with a schedule. Here’s the truth. Part of you is so tired of doing it all alone. Part of you just wants to exhale. To be held without bracing for the bill. Hear me. Healing isn’t becoming less capable. It’s finally learning you were never meant to carry all of it by yourself. If you’re sick of having to white-knuckle your way through everything message me HEAL and check your DMs. You’ve been strong long enough. Let me show you how to put it down. #Love #narcissist #traumabond #relationships #explore
Pretty accurate description of me and my life to be fair, but at the end of the day I can always rely on myself I've never let ME down so I'll stay that way, that's called self preservation!&😉
2026-08-05 19:50:54
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Scoobydoolou :
This hits hard but all very relatable 😔
2026-08-05 14:59:08
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Kaspa :
I’ve gotten used to being forgotten about until I’m needed to do something for someone. I’m never anybody’s first choice and only ever the back up option, so would rather be doing it on my own.
2026-08-05 16:26:32
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Outstanding :
That's one hard hitting post on a wednesday afternoon 😳
2026-08-05 15:08:19
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VanLife65 :
If only we were honest, loving humans. Imagine the world we’d have.
2026-08-05 07:07:03
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justpassingby :
mine is trust. old saying: if you want anything doing right, do it yourself🥰
2026-08-06 12:48:59
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No Village UK :
Sometimes “I’m independent” really means “I learned there was nobody coming, so I became my own backup.” There’s such a difference between choosing independence and having it forced on you.
2026-08-07 12:04:58
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orlatats :
could never find the words to describe it .... until now
2026-08-05 19:23:37
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mafter50 :
Honestly, I just call it peace.
2026-08-05 11:39:09
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xiomaracabrera226 :
So sorry that you are going through this I am also but don’t wish that on anyone else. I empathize and sympathize with you.
2026-08-04 19:42:41
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Dave Heath :
Stay on your own it’s easy if you like yourself and importantly love yourself it gets easier not love yourself because your vein your better that you think don’t go chasing thank you I was a mug once but I learned your own company is the best I’ve got weird hobbies well to someone else (not a nut job) when ignorance is equal confidence is KIng always remember that
2026-08-05 16:09:19
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Johanna :
Yes, but it is very beautiful to be alone also. Not in grief, but in power. Sometimes it feels sacred even.
2026-08-05 19:50:18
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flatout500 :
I think that probably explains a lot of why I am how I am. flying solo always
2026-08-05 18:58:34
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shoeaholic13 :
100% so true this is so relatable
2026-08-06 13:41:47
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Catherine Armour :
That hit me, I definitely still keep my inner circle of people very small 💞
2026-08-06 05:58:00
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cfandango :
same, referred to psychiatrist this week for evaluation, not going, I'm not done yet, the 'system' can be much worse.🙏
2026-08-05 13:13:08
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Dawn Hemmings :
Yep that’s me fearlessly independent
2026-08-06 06:48:36
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Sarahjw :
I am exactly the same...... exhausted from disappointment..... im here if you want to talk xx🥰
2026-08-06 20:42:06
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Justme700 💛⚓️🌻 :
Heal
2026-08-05 11:30:23
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Bhodi@86 :
Wow - eye opening
2026-08-05 11:10:07
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Sabina :
I'm also like this I can only rely on myself for everything I'm 55 and have been like this since 25
2026-08-06 18:02:58
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Sam :
U said wat I cud not find the words for 🥹🙏🏽💜
2026-08-06 14:20:49
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VanLife65 :
100%
2026-08-05 07:06:34
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user2387623806165 :
I'm not independent because I wanted to be, I'm independent because I had to be
2026-08-05 16:58:51
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