@maria.aure1: it's been over a year since i found out and i can finally say my body doesn't flinch when his phone lights up. nobody warns you that staying is its own kind of hard. these are the 5 things that actually gave me my sense of safety back • stopped checking his phone, it never once gave me peace • said the fear out loud instead of setting traps for it • let him earn trust back in small boring proof, not speeches • took the 3am spirals somewhere that wasn't him • learned the difference between healing and just staying no.1 took me the longest and i'm not even ashamed anymore. which one are you stuck on rn #trustissuesafterinfidelity #healingafterbetrayal #betrayaltrauma #anxiousattachment #relationshiptips
i stayed, 2 years later we are the happiest we have been x
2026-08-06 18:30:26
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Nat_dealwis :
Can I have more guidance on this.. I just found out
2026-08-18 12:55:25
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emmagicienne✨ :
How do you cope with everyone telling you to dump him ? I’m in the same situation and every time I talk about him to friends, they tell me to leave. I want to stay but it’s hard to own up that choice when everyone is telling you to do the opposite and when no one seems to understand that choice
2026-08-07 14:59:01
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urtwinflame27 :
I stayed too and he turned his life around to keep me. It’s been 18 months and he’s a completely different man to who he was when we first met
2026-08-28 14:14:29
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Mama van Noa-Lya&Novilia-Mae💗 :
I needed this so much!!! He’s doing so hard his best and when I need to talk about it , he listen and help me to be oke .. Nice to see someone who also giving the man a 2nd chance..greetings a mommy from Holland
2026-08-07 16:05:02
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Lanta | Booktok 📚 :
I don't think I could ever be with someone who could either intentionally or thoughtlessly hurt me that way. No matter how much time passed I'd never forget how little they cared for me in that moment. I hope life works in your favour girl.
2026-08-08 00:27:47
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darceyoglaza22 :
It’s been two months since I found out, he seems to be making the changes but I just can’t get rid of this knot in my stomach 24/7
2026-09-03 10:34:56
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probablydgaf :
I’ll never ever ever stay.
2026-09-16 13:34:43
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no name :
20 years later, never been happier. and all at once the pain hits me and all I can think is "why wasn't it always like this?". Betrayal trauma sucker punches me when I least expect it. and it sucks. thankfully my husband will sit with me and let me cry, scream, pray, anything I need. all these years later, the ghosts are still there but they don't haunt me as much as they used to.
2026-08-30 22:26:40
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OkieDokie :
The fact you have hope he will change….good for you
2026-08-05 20:34:12
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Astralis⭐️🌟✨ :
Thank you❤️I stopped checking his phone too, and I stopped asking questions. I’m trying to focus more on myself now. Being aware of what I’m feeling helps me manage those moments when my anxiety is at its peak and fear starts creeping in like a thief in the night.
We’ve also started going to church again, and I can see small changes in him—in the way he talks to me, the way he holds me, and even in how he treats me. Although I know we still have a long way to go, and there are moments when the hurt and doubt come back, I’m learning not to let them consume me. I’m taking it one day at a time.
2026-08-10 05:51:16
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Amanda Houle :
But how do you stop checking the phone when he was talking to girls on it 😭 like I just can’t and I’m miserable
2026-08-19 00:26:54
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MissCMarie :
3 years IN! 5 was/is still the hardest. But strangely the best thing that could’ve happened for us. We evolv daily broke cycles and learned our own individual foundation is unbreakable 2 full people becoming walking thru fire together. No 6 BECOMING UNBOTHERED AND SECURELY ATTACHED to myself🫶✨
2026-08-07 17:41:59
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KAY3.MAMA :
I’m here also.. I keep going back and forth of how I feel and how scared I am.. please help I’m falling apart over and over and all different ways
2026-08-24 00:59:27
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… :
What if he used everything NORMAL AND ORDINARY to cheat on me? Like his phone, his laptop, his apps, his time alone’s, even on video call when I was sleeping and he was awake? It’s so hard to feel safe again when he abused my trust, even in the simplest, littlest things
2026-08-10 09:03:38
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Sassy_Ces RTRP :
That’s a lot of self control that you did. You were so courageous to stillkeep him as your safety net despite the cheating. You were so brave for ahowing how fragile you are and commincating well that you need assurance.
2026-08-24 19:37:25
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listenwefkup🍻🤪 :
you guys stayed?
2026-09-04 13:03:51
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g :
ya Allah please grant me the peace that i deserve
2026-09-13 12:18:03
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debrap444 :
seems like you're giving all the grace and he gets a second chance without the exposure humility or accountability
wishing you peace and well-being 🙏
2026-08-08 14:29:40
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Kaydence :
Thank you.
2026-08-07 20:42:10
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Ralyssa F. :
I did this and he cheated again.
2026-09-07 13:45:21
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cyndibradfordfarl :
I'm stuck on the 3am spiral.
2026-09-13 17:11:27
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Bay💋 :
How did you know he was going to change before putting in effort to fix things
2026-08-18 20:20:58
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Nick :
All of this is important. But if you don’t see these signs, don’t be afraid to leave. These signs won’t appear magically if they don’t appear early, on his own. Source: it happened to me
2026-09-01 20:26:24
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