Wingz :
Yeah, but a relationship starts based on attraction and chemistry, you cant know how the other person minute be just based on looks and superficial behaviour... real character traits surface later into the relationship, when the honeymoon phase ends and you start seing your significant other has some respect, responsability, loialty, reciprocity Iisus....
And because you are already invested into the relationship and you're authentic, genuine and constant by default, you try to convince your significant othe that maybe talking down on you, keeping open doors, blameshifting, and only knowing to receive is not cool.
Not because you are weak (a begger), but because you know you wont stay in that relationship if they dont change their behaviour...
You already invested in that relationship, you fall for the person they are, but thats just them handling you with "gloves" , their True character surfaces later on when you already hooked, so the only thing left to do is telling them you are hurting because of them, thus parenting them for a while... they either trully love you and dont want to hurt you anemone and change or they love themseles and what you have to ofer (stability, attention, validation) and dont want to loose you, but they will eventualy because they wont change...
2026-08-06 08:54:57