@relationshiploft: One of the biggest mistakes I see unfaithful partners make after an affair has nothing to do with the affair itself. It’s the defensiveness that comes afterward. Healing doesn’t happen because time passes. Healing happens when the partner who caused the injury becomes emotionally safe enough to help repair it. That means putting your own discomfort aside long enough to understand your partner’s pain. It means answering the hard questions. Doing the deep introspective work. Learning why you were willing to live out of integrity in the first place. And becoming someone your spouse can experience as safe, honest, and trustworthy again. The goal isn’t just to save your marriage. The goal is to become a different human being than the one who created the betrayal. If you’re trying to heal after infidelity and don’t know where to start, we’ve created a Road to Recovery eBook for both the hurt partner and the unfaithful partner. And if you want personalized guidance, book an Affair Recovery Strategy Session with us. We’ll help you identify exactly what’s keeping your healing stuck and give you a step-by-step roadmap to move forward. Everything is linked in our bio. #AffairRecovery #InfidelityRecovery #MarriageHealing #BetrayalTrauma #MarriageCoach
My husband cheated 18yrs ago and had a kid on me I stayed but asked him to cut contract with it 18 yrs later behind my back he reached out to the kid and I am now feeling that same hurt from 18yrs ago all over like it happened yesterday he think he did nothing wrong by reaching out 18yrs later behind my back and I should just move on . am I wrong for feeling what am feeling?
2026-08-07 00:40:52
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Jon smith :
Why did he cheat in the first place . There is a reason and it involves both of them a lot of times . Yes the person was wrong to do that but the marriage needs to look at where it is at .
2026-08-18 05:50:03
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[Holy]TrinityInMe3 🇨🇦 :
I just want to know why and what led to it, how it started and what REALLY happened. Where did I go wrong
2026-09-19 09:39:52
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Heavenly Aesthetics :
12yrs together my husband out of the blue said I dont want to be married anymore I want to live my life and your health is getting me down (I had a pulmonary embolism) he then started a relationship with someone who he would never look twice at and he tells me he means nothing he said he doesnt know what happened to him and want to start again....what do I do? the trust is broken
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2026-09-16 17:22:58
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jeffgoldberg38 :
The best solution is to get divorced from the cheater. You can talk all you want about transformation but when cheating happens it’s over.
2026-08-18 11:58:28
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Crafty Mama :
My husbands mistake in healing our marriage is that he refuses to stop asking her for naked videos
2026-09-18 23:45:36
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hunter2343554 :
This is on my fyp but will never pop on hers lol
2026-08-30 14:21:37
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JoshjustJoshin :
What about when the cheating happens because of questioning sexuality, and creates an ongoing desire to effectively cheat still? It feels like an environment where the expectation is to be supportive, and if things had gone differently that could have even been a lot easier.
2026-09-16 22:50:35
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tikkymctokkface :
They continue to lie, that’s the hardest part of all
2026-08-11 16:40:50
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Adhominem :
What if you know the answers to all the questions you just asked. I have to tell you it seems like your assuming that the person who caused this is putting up walls or afraid of the hard conversation etc etc when in fact part of the reason it happened in the first place is because the “victim” your portraying was and is the avoidant. Was the person who put up walls is the person who won’t have the conversation before and after?
2026-08-25 16:25:10
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Vossie :
there's no recovery from an affair!!!!!
2026-09-10 06:03:22
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123456 :
he's says he knows and told me....though every trigger is handle the same...the way u are describing
2026-09-21 21:02:30
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SouthernMama :
what happens is if they actually already talked about why and the reasons but they still continue to talk about it and then they always say the upmost horrible things to the other partner?
2026-09-13 08:58:08
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William Brewster J.R :
that will never happen 😢
2026-08-17 19:40:40
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Wranglers_owner :
How do I learn to trust again. Not just the person who hurt me, but the next one I meet. I don't know if I even want to find someone because I don't want to put myself out there to get hurt again.
2026-08-07 23:56:03
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Batfink :
People watching this are hurting. We are desperate. I get you need to earn a living but we don’t need to buy hope in the form of a book. We need advice and a follow up.
2026-08-18 21:36:37
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RogueArtificer9000 :
For me, she doesn’t even want to talk about it. I tried to give her the space to decide on her own to disclose more than I’ve demanded and to offer transparency on her own. It’s now clear that she’d rather pretend the affair never happened and move on. We are going to be having a VERY uncomfortable conversation soon and I’m not sure I’ll still be married after we do.
2026-08-17 17:01:09
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Cynefin :
Dont know if I can re-live the pain, if I get those answer, will it help me or push the limit... I dont know if Hearts can be sewn back.
2026-08-06 19:08:45
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Youaresilly88 :
I would never cheat on my wife but comments have made have her feeling this way. I am trying so hard and am using these tools
2026-08-10 02:57:34
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Trish Stilo 🌈💙 :
My wife cheated on me in January of this year. Then in May she reached out to that same person using one of the kids phones to avoid me checking her phone and finding anything. I did ask for a divorce but I am constantly replaying everything and questioning if she even loved me. This has been an ugly week for me and I keep asking the “why wasn’t I worth it” question to myself.
2026-08-09 10:56:48
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ddubs :
WOW. This one is amazing. Thanks Kelly! 🥰
2026-08-08 10:47:18
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JLaden :
It’s not a mistake that’s the most telling and honest part of a cheater
2026-10-02 01:20:38
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άσπρος τοίχος :
there are no partners in betrayal!!
2026-09-30 10:03:23
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ᛑᛗᛛMatthew Fraser ᛑᛗᛛ :
This needs to be on her fyp I was loyal to my wife lmao wish she could say the same
2026-08-30 13:09:33
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mickirishmick :
ya just have to be joking, just get rid of the partner that cheated, and don't put yourself the another moment of pain, move on and fined someone else, this is all BS, move on
2026-08-19 14:10:17
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