@litemindedtherapy: To clarify, these are practices, not quick fixes. They may feel unnatural or even increase your anxiety at first, because you’re doing something different from what has historically helped you feel safe. Instead of monitoring someone’s attention, searching for reassurance, or withdrawing to see whether they notice, you’re learning to pause, tolerate uncertainty, and respond more intentionally. The goal isn’t to ignore your instincts, excuse harmful behavior, or train yourself to tolerate relationships that are consistently unsafe, manipulative, neglectful, or one-sided. Sometimes anxiety is activation from an old wound, and sometimes it is giving you important information about the dynamic you’re in. The work is learning to tell the difference. Over time, you’re practicing staying with the initial discomfort long enough to ask: “Is this an old fear being triggered, or is this person repeatedly showing me that they cannot offer the consistency and care I need?” Therapy can be especially helpful in sorting this other and doing the deeper work in an ongoing, supportive capacity. If you have specific questions, drop them in the comments and happy to answer 👇🏻🫶 #anxiousattachment #therapytok #hypervigilance #codependency #relationaltrauma

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Thursday 06 August 2026 14:31:16 GMT