@relationshipswithaly: You will believe the stories you tell yourself, even after your partner has changed their behavior. I see this with couples all the time. They make REAL progress. But as soon as one bump in the road comes, they talk as if that progress never happened. Because the wounds are raw, and the stories are familiar. When you start to examine the narrative that’s comfortable and swap it with one that’s a little nerve-wracking because it requires vulnerability and trust, you see real progress. I’m talking about a relationship where both partners are trying, I’m not talking about gaslighting yourself into believing that your partner has changed if there’s no evidence of that. Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This content is not personally about the creator. THIS WILL NOT APPLY TO EVERYONE.
The problem is when I do bring it up, everything you said in the beginning does happen. And he still goes to being quiet and the distance grows.
2026-08-16 14:58:49
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tripchic11 :
lmao yeah... I've thought this so many times. Still ends in a big argument because of how he reacts to me bringing something up. I'm tired of hoping.
2026-08-30 05:27:56
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KaninaBunz :
ugh Everytime I "give the chance" I'm never surprised.
2026-08-08 03:26:10
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emhu42 :
once your in that place within yourself and r your relationship, there is no way you are just casually sitting next to him on a couch.
2026-09-17 12:50:31
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customwoodconcepts :
Nope! Doing it that way makes it ok for a short while and then the cycle starts all over again
2026-08-28 22:46:20
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Aislynn Gamez :
yeah he doesn't care so just don't say anything
2026-08-08 04:10:27
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tt2ehrels :
Yeah him being like that would turn anyone anxious
2026-08-08 03:31:00
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MillsB :
WARNING: the only time the worries aren't the actual outcome is if your with a man who has mental maturity, has respect for you and has accountability. if he does not have those three things. be prepared for all your what ifs and worst version to become a " yup I knew it" reality
2026-09-03 03:20:17
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Hill Gunt :
Fell for that trap multiple times a week for YEARS! It's a trap!!!
2026-09-09 06:46:24
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David Vukmanic :
Wow one of the actual few good relationship messages on TicTok. I’ve decided a few years ago that i will take every moment with my partner they are bringing things to me out of love and not being mean. I’m still a work in progress though.
2026-08-08 14:24:24
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SchrodingersTimelord :
If you bring it up they might listen and say they'll do better and it might seem like something shifted at first but then things go back to the way they were.
2026-09-05 14:11:02
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🇺🇸🏁🇺🇸 Mary Kate Joy❌ :
Maybe we should text him a heads up - hey can we talk about this serious issue when you’re ready?…. Maybe
2026-08-09 02:47:26
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handiestman86 :
Lol, i kinda have these thoughts, then her and I will be chatting, she'll make a statement about other people, im like, but thats not what you previously said, and then she shuts down like she always does. Essentially, im meant to nod and agree, even when she lies about me, and then everything will just be ok.
2026-08-08 16:17:00
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funk.monk_ :
hope is a weak dog.
2026-09-04 06:18:19
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🥷🏻🌸caytie🌸🥷🏻 :
🔥🔥🔥 love this because this is exactly how I think.
2026-08-07 21:34:15
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Reignite | Michael J Cook :
The mind may see that your partner has changed before the nervous system trusts it. That's why new words aren't always enough. Create new conditions, new experiences and new patterns consistently, until the body begins to learn that the old story is no longer the present one.
2026-08-10 13:45:04
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travismitchell235 :
my wife
2026-08-09 17:55:17
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Wish I'd Known That Before :
maybe if you just focus on the specific issue rather than turn it into a laundry list of complaints.
maybe if you just dicsuss the behaviour and emotional impact on you without projecting or inferring intent that isn't actually there.
maybe if you raise the issue as a behaviour that needs to change inatead of a fundamental character flaw.
maybe if you speak about it as the single event it was rather than invent some erroneous "pattern" from unconnected behaviours.
2026-08-09 12:55:03
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Jeno174 :
me!!!
2026-09-17 06:12:27
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FUTUREFIXERS :
🤣
2026-08-07 21:34:40
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