@ashbg.motherhood: Here is what the study is actually documenting. It is not documenting that her success causes him harm. It is documenting that men have been so thoroughly conditioned to locate their entire identity in their earning power that when that single metric shifts, they have nothing else to stand on. That is not her fault. That is a catastrophic failure of how we raise boys. And the solution is not for her to earn less. It is not for her to do more housework to manage his ego. It is not for her to make herself smaller so he feels bigger. The solution is to raise men whose worth is not stored in a pay cheque. Who find their identity in how they show up. Who celebrate the person beside them rather than feel diminished by her. She has been managing his feelings about her success on top of everything else she is already managing. That is the study nobody is writing.
