talkswithshad
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You aren’t always responsible for how someone perceives things. A person can be offended by virtually anything even something as mundane as loud breathing. That doesn’t mean you’re obligated to apologize or change your behavior to accommodate subjective reactions. Intent does matter, but context is everything. If a driver hits and kills someone, they’re held responsible regardless of intent, because the harm is objective and measurable. But subjective offense? That’s internal. You can’t be held accountable for everyone’s private reactions to normal, neutral actions. The boundary is clear, physical harm requires accountability. Subjective offense doesn’t. You’re not responsible for managing the world’s feelings, and you shouldn’t apologize for existing or acting with genuine, neutral intent.
2026-08-09 22:45:31
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Ash :
Ngl, as someone with ADHD this is exhausting. It’s like I’m always “accidentally pissing someone off” whole time I feel like I’m surviving and working hard to make people happy.
2026-08-09 14:58:17
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TallOne507 :
this gets weaponized. Feelings aren't always truth and are often triggered by someone's own wounds. you in ability to heal does not become my responsibility
2026-08-09 14:41:28
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Rayne :
The road to hell is paved on good intentions. People need to remember that quote.
2026-08-09 17:51:47
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royalrea :
you would think this is common sense but it’s not. emotional maturity will take you so far.
2026-08-09 15:35:18
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🎧🔊 :
Exactly. If we put this into law, it’d be negligent crimes. You didn’t mean to do it yet you’re still liable for it.
2026-08-09 08:38:45
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ElleCee :
Exactly! People don’t INTEND to run a stop sign and tbone you but that doesn’t dissolve their liability.
2026-08-09 14:05:10
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Bree🫧🤍 :
i’ve been trying to explain this
2026-08-09 02:19:59
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Beth G :
Yup, intent doesn’t negate impact. Feelings can be wrong, but should ALWAYS be validated. If you can’t admit when you’re wrong even if you didn’t “mean” to hurt somebody, you’re the problem.
2026-08-10 14:07:22
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Zuted_up92 :
Ong specifically flashpoint 😭😂, Barry a good guy tho
2026-08-10 12:54:00
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•taylor• :
If you didn’t see someone walking and hit them with your car…you aren’t absolved of responsibility just because you never would’ve hit them if you saw them…you still hit them whether you meant to or not!!!
2026-08-09 06:50:08
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Christal Lynn :
You ever tripped and broke something? Obviously you didnt mean to, but its still broken....same thing!
2026-08-09 19:56:18
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Nickyoungslife :
People also be lying about what they meant to do and intentions …it’s a childish way to absolve their actions
2026-08-10 10:34:18
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Sheryl Sells Florida :
Cause and Effect
2026-08-10 14:42:55
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kenn 🌸 :
THISSSSS
2026-08-10 14:40:24
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angela b :
YOU DID ITTTTT😭
2026-08-10 08:17:16
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Rashaun Fain :
on point
2026-08-10 10:07:06
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Elle Sea :
Involuntary manslaughter is still manslaughter
2026-08-10 12:43:23
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amanda🌟 :
yesss! & this is why i scream being able to understand nuance is so important!! seriously, we all need to understand our perspective of things isn’t always 100%. most all of things in life are complex and nuanced, and that plays into what your explaining. your experience isn’t the only lived reality
2026-08-09 00:08:38
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CB :
I 100% agree with what you're saying. However, I will add a caveat to that. Person A says or does something without meaning and without knowledge to person B. Person B gets hurt, offended, whatever, due to their past or their scars. Now, while person A is not absolved of the hurt, person B also needs to look at intentionality and take into consideration the intent. While you're sitting there in your hurt, you also have to look at yourself and go, "Yes, this is something that hurts me, but this person didn't intend to." That should also factor in, because me saying or doing something without knowledge of it is at a different level than someone who says or does something intentionally. While both are 100% guilty of what they did, you, as the person who received that, have to understand intentionality. A perfect example of this is laws. You can be guilty of a crime, but if it was an accident versus on purpose, there are different levels of that. I hope I'm explaining this the right way. I'm not saying the victim is wrong in any way. I'm not saying the perpetrator is not guilty, but there are different levels, and you shouldn't treat everything with the same broad brush. As a human being, we know we have triggers, and certain things trigger people. You have to look at it and go, "Oh, that's on me, not on that person."
2026-08-10 14:11:34
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Alessandra DiAllesandro Hanson :
If there’s a miscommunication and you clarify and apologize there is nothing more you can do. It is up to the triggered person to either accept or not accept the miscommunication. You can not just take it back and it never happened. All you can do is clarify and apologize, but it is not my responsibility to make you feel a certain way after doing all I can for whatever was misspoke/misunderstood. You can not control how someone reacts or responds to something you do/say. Just as you can not control how someone interprets what you say/do.
2026-08-10 14:08:21
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liv 🫶🏼 :
good intentions do not equal good actions. point blank period.
2026-08-09 15:17:29
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dawnburke15 :
Oh my goodness I wish you the best. You’re very intelligent man.
2026-08-10 02:45:48
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Phylisha 🌻 :
This is the reason why I leave everybody alone. It’s so draining trying to explain this. People only care about how they are perceived regardless of the impact. They literally do not care 😂
2026-08-09 20:30:02
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