notesonhealingg
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Jr :
I’ve spent years trying to understand why I cheated, because saying I was selfish or made a mistake never felt like it fully explained what was going on inside me. Through therapy, I realized I had become addicted to attention, especially attention from women. A lot of that went way further back than our relationship. Growing up, I never felt like I got the attention, affection, or validation I wanted from my mom. Somewhere along the way, I learned to fill that hole by getting attention from other women. It made me feel wanted, important, and good enough, even if only for a little while. But I want to be very clear about something. That explains part of why I was the way I was. It does not excuse what I did. You didn’t cause it. You weren’t responsible for filling that hole in me. I was responsible for recognizing what was happening and dealing with it without betraying you, and I didn’t. Looking back, I don’t think I was chasing another woman as much as I was constantly chasing the feeling of being wanted. And the messed-up part is that no amount of attention would have ever been enough, because I was trying to get other people to fix something inside me that I needed to work on myself. It took years of therapy and a lot of looking at parts of myself I wasn’t proud of to understand that. I can’t change what I did or the hurt I caused. I can only own it and understand myself well enough that I never become that person again. Sorry for the lengthy text.
2026-08-17 02:07:00
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elishadavila :
Cheating is commonly rooted in abandonment trauma. Most of these people are extremely insecure and need constant validation. Others have avoidant or narcissistic traits and they will cheat once you mirror back to them all the things they don’t want to change within themselves.
2026-08-17 03:23:05
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🫥 :
There’s too much love in my heart for just one girl
2026-08-22 21:32:16
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Sadie :
He needed validation from someone who didn’t know the real him. Facts.
2026-08-17 07:32:08
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Apru Maui and LK2 :
If you ask a cheater that they’re just going to blame the other person rather than take accountability.
2026-08-16 00:47:53
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m :
he wouldnt stfu about aliens
2026-08-16 23:44:09
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Synamin :
why is cheating and betrayal becoming so normalized.
2026-08-18 20:40:04
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CHASE :
I was just selfish and wouldn’t let go of the past. Chasing it hoping it’d all change as I was missing what was right infront of me
2026-09-01 09:44:18
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. :
revenge, but did it only once bcs the relationship with other person was horrible from their side and she did it first
2026-09-01 12:49:36
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ibtis369 :
He told me I wasn’t cheating « i was networking « lollllll
2026-09-01 15:52:43
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Yorgos Michoglou :
Insecurity is the answer
2026-08-22 12:31:30
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( . 人 . ) :
most are either narcissists or extremely insecure
2026-08-18 14:15:27
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rerens :
ikr, like I never understand why people choose to cheat 😭 if you don't love your partner anymore, just break up, why cheat ? if you break up, you can be with anyone you like without worrying or lying
2026-09-01 12:16:45
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_BlUe_AnGeL_ :
Do not ask a liar why he lies to you?because he had to lie again to excuse himself
2026-08-27 06:22:37
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Gracie :
addiction to dopamine
2026-08-20 18:50:34
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AnMonster :
My dog stepped on a bee
2026-08-31 10:05:46
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c_medina55 :
Its lust. Something about having control of multiple women is unexplainable.
2026-08-17 19:33:21
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Ali Cannon :
im not a cheater but I think they are so unhappy in themselves
2026-08-22 23:48:55
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Laure :
Cuz i was too lazy to study so yeah i used chat gpt several times during my tests ngl
2026-08-29 21:42:23
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g :
I wanted outside validation and pleasure.. i wasnt receiving that from my ex and I shouldve just left him. I ended up hurting a good person and I will never repeat my mistakes again
2026-08-17 13:31:02
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