@kators88: A question you can ask to gauge if “respect” is being used as a synonym for dignity or obedience is: “What specifically would I have to do to demonstrate respect?” If the answer is “listen to you, speak to you civilly, acknowledge your perspective, and honor your boundaries,” that’s interpersonal respect. If the answer is “stop questioning me, do what I tell you, don’t challenge me, and accept my decisions,” we’re talking about deference to authority. A healthy relationship between equals doesn’t require one person to be more authoritative in order for the other to be respectful. You can respect someone’s humanity, competence, boundaries, and perspective while disagreeing with them and they can respect you while doing the same. #respect #authority #feminist #obedience #relationships @angelites2021

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Catarina 🍉 :
Men use “respect” as a synonym of obedience.
2026-08-11 08:07:35
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basicallysmall
Florence ✨ :
Here’s the original for anyone who’d like to read it :)
2026-08-10 22:57:29
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cline1384
Cline1384 🆘🇺🇸 :
I think parents (particularly past generations) are especially guilty of this one. Expect kids to respect them (like an authority) and the consequence is that they refuse to respect the kids (meaning treat them like persons).
2026-08-11 05:14:18
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aaaalyssia
Alyssia :
it was a Tumblr post from like 2015 before it was a tiktok comment.
2026-08-10 20:41:17
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jennainsea
Jenna :
If I disagreed with my ex, he'd say I was being disrespectful. This makes sense now
2026-08-11 01:10:40
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itsgivingeffystonem
Effy :
Men confuse obedience with respect, and respect with love.
2026-08-11 02:50:22
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tortillatoya
tortillatoya :
And sometimes they use disrespectful when all you did was ask someone of authority a question. To “be respectful” somehow became the inability to ask a question
2026-08-10 21:43:34
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binkydinks53
Bianca Thoeny :
My sisters.
2026-08-11 00:22:13
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melancholy.mermaid
Melancholy Mermaid 🪄✨️ :
My father ALWAYS saw respect as obedience which was required. I respect the six feet of dirt above him now, does that count? 🤨☠️🤷‍♀️
2026-08-11 04:38:36
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lets_talk_a_bart_it
Lets_Talk_A_Bart_It :
Dad, is that you??
2026-08-11 06:43:05
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charliebig
charlie :
ON TIKTOK 😭😭 poor tumblr
2026-08-11 04:33:44
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melbugai
Melissa Bugai :
I've lived that experience. More than once.
2026-08-10 23:03:08
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justifiedmadness5.0
❌J'Wan Yvette 5.0❌ :
I felt that... dealt with enough narcissists in my life to recognize that.
2026-08-10 23:58:48
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kevinthebigfoot
Kevin :
ooh.. damn, it makes so much sense now. I was having problem with a guy who said, that I don't respect him. But I do. But for me it seemed all the time, that he just wants to be my boss... I see it now. still, I'm going to disrespect him from now on ant not to worry about respecting him since he wants an authority
2026-08-11 10:13:49
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yugundefense
UDS :
Recently had someone yell at me that they deserved respect and I was confused af cause how exactly did I disrespect you? As they kept talking I realized they meant I wasn't deffering to them/their opinion over my own. Which was crazy cause technically I was their boss.
2026-08-11 07:54:51
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iusedtobenice77
Iusedtobenice :
My parents version of respect taught me to be a people pleaser, their generation beliveves respect is obedience.
2026-08-10 22:45:04
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jceo32
JCeo :
my dad ha
2026-08-10 23:54:34
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cutechica83
Laura Mayancela :
That's true. Older generations were taught that. Respect was confused for obedience/silence.
2026-08-10 22:17:23
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brownschoice445
Brown'schoice445 :
Most men use respect and debt and conflate it with fear. A woman doesn’t do what she’s told or treat him in a certain way he says she’s not respecting him, but what he actually means is, she doesn’t fear him enough.
2026-08-11 01:16:04
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lisabrown1993
lisabrown1993 :
This happens in child abuse all the time!
2026-08-10 23:54:42
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dr.izmo
Dr. izmo :
My mom definitely means "respect " as obedience.
2026-08-10 21:57:30
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luminariaudio
Luminaria 🇺🇸🇨🇦 :
Whenever someone pulls this “you need to respect me” crap, I immediately think of Cartman.
2026-08-10 21:13:54
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alissssuh
Alissa :
Oh my god that just added an entire new layer of understanding on why my last relationship was abusive
2026-08-11 00:56:00
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margotnotmargo663
Molls663 :
This quote is usually directed at law enforcement.
2026-08-10 22:52:16
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eccentricsoulessence
BBB :
Yeah the Police do it to black people people all the time
2026-08-10 21:51:25
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