@coach.ryan0: “How do I get the avoidant to obsess over me?” Wrong question. 🎯 You can play games. Pull away. Manufacture scarcity. “Do less to get more.” Trigger their attachment system and maybe even get them chasing you. Congratulations. You successfully created more dysfunction. 👏 Obsession isn’t love. Chasing isn’t commitment. Activation isn’t intimacy. And getting them back doesn’t magically make them emotionally available. Stop trying to WIN unhealthy relationships. Start choosing people who are actually capable of BUILDING healthy ones. #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentStyles #DatingAdvice #HealthyRelationships

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