@fragil3gg: if you have been sexually assaulted/abused and didn't want to tell anyone, if you feel like sharing why, please leave a comment. ❤️‍🩹 I cannot stand when people ask victims of assault/abuse, "why didn't you tell anyone?" or "why didn't you leave?" this makes it sound like there are some answers that will make you see the abused person as being understandable, not guilty of what happened, and being worthy of compassion, and some answers that will make you see them as a stupid idiot dumbass moron, 100% at fault for what happened to them, and should be dismissed. "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me," doesn't work in every situation. r*pe me once, shame on you. r*pe me twice, shame on you. r*pe me any amount of times, shame on you. 👍 good reason: he's the one with a job so if I leave, the kids and I will be homeless. "that makes sense, you were just looking out for them. it's not like the kids would be much safer in a homeless shelter or a foster home." 👎 bad reason: he's the one with a job so if I leave, the kids and I will be homeless. "why didn't you just leave and get a job, or get a job, save up the money secretly, and leave?" - ignoring the fact that leaving doesn't mean that within a few days you have job and immediately have the money to get your kids and yourself safely set up somewhere. plus, in many domestic abuse situations, the abuser will NOT allow the person they're abusing to get a job. 👍 good reason: I have no self confidence, she made me believe that I was used goods and no one else would ever love me. "omg... I am so sorry. you're so beautiful inside and out, and now that you've escaped from that monster, I want to help you see that." 👎 bad reason: I have no self confidence, she made me believe that I was used goods and no one else would ever love me. "if you had just left, you would have found out that wasn't true! I would have told you she was wrong!" - ignoring the fact that self confidence and worth aren't things someone can suddenly wake up and have enough of to start bettering their life, and a "you're beautiful" from a friend isn't much of a match against being belittled and degraded all day, every day, by someone who isn't afraid to hurt you as much as they possibly can. 👍 good reason: he told me he'd k*ll me if I left. "omg and he has that whole gun collection... you must have been so scared." 👎 bad reason: he said he'd k*ll himself if I left "so? good! he should! that should have given you more of a reason to go!" - ignoring the fact that if he's going to end himself, there's like a 90% chance he's taking you with him, or at least he will thoroughly ruin your life before he checks out. 👍 good reason: he threatened to use nsfw pics to blackmail me. "sheesh, I'd be scared too. he could have sent them to your boss, your coworkers, your family, your kid's school..." 👎 bad reason: he threatened to use nsfw pics to blackmail me. "well, why'd he have pics of you like that in the first place?!" - ignoring the fact that, at least these days, they have most likely exchanged nsfw pics with people they knew way less than this abuser + abused person knew one another (and if you are between ages 18-60 and say this is wrong, unfortunately, I am fairly sure you're the weird one. 😭) 👍 good reason: because I loved them. "of course you did, I mean, it's not like you two didn't have great times and love each other before the abuse started... that must have made it so much harder, so much more confusing." 👎 bad reason: because I loved them. "why??? are you fucking stupid????" ✨ finally, the MOST IMPORTANT thing to remember ✨ every time someone says, "if it had been me..." and ends that thought with what they, the brilliant geniuses with infinite, awe-inspiring wisdom that they are, would have done in these horrible situations, all of the words they say for the rest of their lives officially have no worth + they smell rly bad forever + they are banned from heaven + they suck butts #abuse #MentalHealth #ptsd #recovery #fyp

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