@vaultandvision: From: Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame (1953) by Patricia DeYoung

Black Disabled Queer :

I love this. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m going to saved this post! 🥰

Pig the Pig :

Ya know I just was thinking about some of the creators on here doing a day in the life when they were drug addicts. And they tell these stories and say I’m not ashamed and I wonder if that’s part of why/ how they were able to recover. One creator said she knows when she gets to the comments where it’s the people that know her bc the hearts end. I thought that was so interesting bc it’s almost like the people she knows don’t feel happy for her— almost like she should have shame or like who do you think you are sort of energy.

Claudia 💙 :

Like letting babies cry themselves to sleep?

Step Theory :

So interesting and heartbreaking

greenmasher :

“Shame is the experience of one’s felt sense of self disintegrating in relation to a disregulating other” wooooow I’m definitely going to check that book out

Zoᔕma :

Been off TT for a few months and of course THIS is exactly what I needed right now. Thank youuu 🩷

mantis_shrimp_colorwheel :

From 1953? Wow. Thank you for this.

Jade ✨ :

I don’t know if you’ve mentioned this book before, but healing the shame that binds you by John Bradshaw is such an amazing book on shame, and all the different types of shame and how it shapes us from childhood experience all the way throughout our life. If you haven’t read it I highly recommend!!

Ptashka200 🇺🇦🇨🇦 :

This is a brilliant explanation! Thank you for sharing

s0fiawithanf⋆˚꩜🐈‍⬛⋆.˚⭑ :

welp this explains a lot

Rey :

I don't think I've ever heard this articulated in this way thank you

R a c h e l :

And it’s hard when we are told explicitly by others and culture that we “are needy” too. It’s internal and external. 😩

cagedbirdnojutsu :

Great description of one dynamic that can contribute to toxic/chronic shame! Stated simply as a definition of shame itself, I do disagree. Otherwise, I believe that these are very beautiful words, read just as beautifully. ✨🥰

$MoneyHoney$ :

that's very true!

Mikhale Mojica :

off topic but you are so pretty I want to be your friend lol

jessleone🗣️📚✍🏽 :

Fuuuuuuuuuu*k

bonnyonmaui :

SayD5 :

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