@coachalexcormontexback: The mistake that blocks everything with an avoidant? Wanting the big conversation. When things end with an avoidant man, you get one obsession. You want to talk it out. Put everything on the table. Find the solution. Be heard, and hear him too. It feels logical. But with an avoidant, it backfires every time. Because to him, that conversation means pressure. It means losing his freedom. And here's the part that surprised even me after years of coaching: it means losing control. Not control over you, he's not a narcissist, but control over the dynamic. And when an avoidant feels that control slipping, fear and stress take over. So the conversation you're craving feels like an emotional trap to him. The answer is the opposite of what you think. Stop chasing the talk. Focus on the moment. Because here's what I tell every woman who comes to me with a stubborn avoidant ex. When you're smiling with him, when you share a good moment, when you talk about your own full life, your workouts, your friends, your work going well, his avoidance disappears. An avoidant only shows up as avoidant when he feels pressured. The moment he sees a woman whose happiness doesn't depend on him, that wall comes down. You don't need to become someone else. You need a calmer presence. A happy woman. "I'm not trying to fix everything right now, I just want a beautiful moment." That's it. Comment AVOIDANT to get him back in 3 months and I'll send you the free video in DM. #getyourexback #ex #breakupadvice #relationshipadvice

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