@annikaunmasked: Before I knew I was autistic, sex felt like a performance to me in the same way masking in everyday life felt like a performance. I wasn’t able to be truly intimate with my partners because I wasn’t intimate enough with myself yet to let somebody see me that deeply. After nine months of unmasking, I decided to be celibate. And I’m so, so, so happy about it, because the next time I have sex, I want to have sex as unmasked Annika — with someone who sees and knows unmasked Annika. Anyone else experiencing this? Research behind this conversation: • Gray et al. — Autistic Narratives of Sensory Features, Sexuality, and Relationships • Barnett & Maticka-Tyndale — A Qualitative Exploration of Sexual Experiences Among Adults on the Autism Spectrum • Evans et al. — Autistic Masking in Relation to Mental Health, Interpersonal Trauma, Authenticity, and Self-Esteem • Pearson & Rose — A Conceptual Analysis of Autistic Masking Context note: This is Annika-first content—a window into one autistic and ADHD life, not a definition of autism or ADHD. I am white, relatively low support needs, and not physically disabled. My perspective is not universal, and what works for me may not work for you. Please take what resonates and make room for experiences different from mine. #annikaunmasked #unmasking #autisminwomen #audhd #celibacy

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yourstrulyalexisxo
A. 🥀 :
Having sex as fawning destroyed me and now I’m basically asexual
2026-08-13 16:24:33
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alphabetsandariats
alphabetsandariats :
For me it’s a little of both. I don’t want anyone touching me that isn’t going to take care of me mentally and emotionally first so I’ll wait till that person comes
2026-08-12 14:02:19
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__tylinn
__tylinn :
NEVER had sex for me and only wanted to when I drank
2026-08-12 19:31:03
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thegrimoirediaries
Veronica, not Heather 🖤 :
I don't even like sex 🤣🤣🤣 It takes too long for something I can do in 5 minutes and get relief by myself
2026-08-12 18:42:09
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sarahlovehorse_twitch
Sarah 🇨🇦 :
Same here. Done saying yes. Am now openly asexual, and single 😅
2026-08-12 03:08:06
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jful979
Jah :
This is so beyond relatable and i have no one to talk to about this 😭
2026-08-12 04:49:57
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carlieissaved
carlieDGAF :
I didn’t realize how common this was
2026-08-12 06:49:00
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jaden.minter
Jaden Minter :
I wouldn't say I never had sex for me but like 90% of my sex life has felt forced for sure
2026-08-12 14:12:37
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fairies638
👑 :
Yessssss! I had sex because o was making THEM happy.i was a performer. Is the only way I can describe it. I LOVE not having sex! It’s been so long.. YEARS! And I’m so happy NOT PERFORMING
2026-08-13 02:08:37
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alyssa.the_lil_collector
Alyssa :
I'm stuck in a weird middle ground when it comes to sexual intimacy. I'm a sensory seeker and can't get enough once I get started...but I can't get it started unless parameters are ideal. EX. we've both showered recently but are not still wet, it's after sunset/8pm but not too late, my hormones aren't making me crampy or tender chested, I'm hydrated enough, I'm relaxed enough, etc. I hate it, because I honestly need the post coital hormone release to bond and regulate my nervous system, but my brain is so freaking picky about how and when it happens that I maybe get it right once or twice a month 😭 It sucks because I always feel great mentally the day or two after, and I wish I could feel that chill more often 😮‍💨
2026-08-12 20:47:12
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krazykittycat
Pilot Jones :
Girl, thank you for sharing this because you’re bringing words to situations I was aware of, but didn’t have as clear words for. Been celibate for a year.
2026-08-12 16:07:29
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moonsandspoons
WitchintheWoods :
Once I was unmasking a lot of sexual trauma came up from submitting to partners in the past. Now navigating intimacy in a way that feels safe for me (so I can remain present in my body without dissociating) has been VERY challenging. Because there’s almost no circumstance where I’m fully enjoying the experience it is soooo sensory overwhelming.
2026-08-12 13:12:58
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hot.istic
Mikayla :
Im also autistic and traumatized myself due to my dawn response. I spent 6 years celibate and now I’m dating someone who I actually enjoy it with for the first time 🥲
2026-08-12 06:04:40
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adiena.bee
Adiena :
I crave the connection more than the sensation
2026-08-14 09:14:37
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twocatscreatives
Evie (eh-vee) 🍉 :
Ive truly never had a unique experience huh
2026-08-12 12:17:56
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faithmender
Faithmender :
Yep I realized in my 30s that sex was always masking for me and I'm actually asexual 🙃
2026-08-13 03:42:30
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studywithhelen999
studywithHelen :
I'm 17 and I've never done it, I don't want to either . I hate the idea of relationships and kids and intimacy. i don't understand feeling sxxy or wanting to please someone else , especially when they statistically are the one to unalive me. this is just personal opinion
2026-08-12 11:48:27
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empressdior
TheRealEmpress :
Was literally getting nothing from it...
2026-08-12 11:49:27
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deadxdolly
Mercy 🦇 :
I know right I prefer to do it by myself it's annoying with other people.
2026-08-13 02:08:06
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andreamezcuv
Andrea Amezcua :
Girl omg you’ve been a light to my experience. I’ve been celibate for over a year now after realizing. I knew i was but I was misdiagnosed with only adhd so I was gaslighting myself. And I studied psychology lol unmasking is a wild experience as a woman.
2026-08-12 02:26:46
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sharkksyd
sharkksyd :
Oh wow is that what that was?? I’ve never heard anyone else talk about this. It’s why I got taken advantage of so many times and gave in to sex when I didn’t actually want to at all because I freeze up and just say yes.
2026-08-13 23:17:16
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kanon0h6
kanon06 :
wait I think I'm doing this too LOOOL. as soon as I started to unmask I became semi sex repulsive to me and then decided to go celibate as I felt no need or desires to have sex. it wasn't for me in the past but to make exes happy. so now I'm trying to learn where I really stand and just saying no
2026-08-12 07:37:09
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mominyesterdaysmakeup
Cherissa Michell :
I put myself in sooooo many terrible situations. For years. Went celibate for 8 months, the longest time I’d ever gone. It healed something in me I didn’t even know I did wrong against myself. Then found my life partner ❤️
2026-08-12 11:08:18
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lyssa.hansen
lyssa.hansen 🐞 :
Yup, went through that and have been celibate for 4 years now. But I also came out as gay, so it’s like I’ve gone back to square one again.
2026-08-12 02:38:54
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