Alexander :
It's s really hurtful; these women who basically say you're gaslighting the shit out of this. I feel for you experiencing that. I really do. I'm not even kidding. And I get it. Yet, it still hurts. But knowing the truth... I can only listen and tell you: sometimes things are really true, even if you have a hard time believing that. My ex wife exclaimed the very words and energy you are uttering here. The hurt you feel is real. An emotionally immature man is destructive. I've been there. I feel what he's saying here is true, and it is only because I can listen now in the same way. I'm grateful for the woman who was willing to break the cycle with me. I stand beside her, wherever she lets me. I don't need anything in return. I want her to find happiness again and see her beautiful smile that lights up the room. We had to separate and I'm trying to find the joy in remembering the good times and the love we shared also. Remaining together would be remaining within the destructive pattern. And the one who leaves, brakes it. It is a very bitter pill. There's no wholeness to be found there, but right after it all: a true Liberation with deep grief. It is at that very moment, men should remain where they are. Accept the consequences. Let her talk, scream, yell. No explanations. Just, be. With her. Not leave her hanging. But also choose you. I loved being with her also. She is beautiful. And she deserves it all. To be seen. I choose myself ultimately and did so knowingly I would loose her. But she wasn't mine in the first place; I only could borrow her for some time. And yes; my pain fucked her up. There was no malice. It is pain. It is hurt. And it was projected. I own that. I pray that the man who hurt you, deeply, will find his maturity and returns what is rightfully yours; his respect for you, your dignity, his honesty in what it was all about and the return of your sanity. But it is not this man that should and neither is it me. I am so sorry but it was the only way, even in hindsight 😔❤️
2026-08-17 16:33:51