@bthelight1133:

🇨🇦 Ang :

It's a complete waste of time to fall into relationships with these people. 1) You are the model of how your kids will associate safety and security and will try to form relationships in their adult years according to their attachment style. 2) Someone devaluing you will also devalue your children and isn't a safe person for you or the children emotionally. When the relationship ends, will they continue the relationship with your kids? Will they just not care because they only were invested because they were after mom? So, as soon as you hear those devaluing comments to shit test you, you pause and say, "I'm going to need some time to process what you said to me just now." I need some space. If they start arguing, put your hand up and say NO, I am making a boundary and we will continue this conversation when I have had time to process. If they still persist, you leave, you tell them you are dropping the call, you are walking away. If they still ignore your boundary, that's when you say, I have told you repeatedly to respect my boundaries that you continue to cross. I would not do the same to you. Now I am even more angry, if you persist, I will act accordingly and know this is me telling you, this is your final warning. If they still persist- Bye 👋 They don't like boundaries and if it's early in the relationship, it will get much worse. You can't control how someone will respond, but you can control yourself and your boundaries. I used the most patient way of pulling up a boundary but tone and inflection are everything to tell you this person may not be safe right now or become a person who doesn't care about boundaries. Those people we can't play with. You are looking for signs they may not be capable of self reflection or seeing others. Some people are fantastic at putting on a dog and pony show to look like the person we want but then flip a switch when they think they have you. So test the waters, let them feel comfortable with you and observe if they are consistent, do they treat people well that serve them nothing or do they ignore them? Cancel plans and see how they react. Make boundaries in the beginning or tell them of your boundaries.

Pinupgirl81 :

period Queen

jessica._.elaine :

What about when they tell you, you need help during almost any disagreement

CuntyParker23 :

Preach Queen💕

raven of the broken biscuits :

Devina 🐈‍⬛️🏳️‍🌈🎨 :

equal or nothing, darlin' 🫶🏻✨️

Michelle Clark :

thank you

Luna :

I think us single moms just need to pair off art this point

Harpy :

without having to ask them to show up right, so ridiculous

Kait.withAC🧚🏻‍♀️ :

Amen sister

initiatrix(1)feminine.nrg :

if you channel divine masc/fem now is the time. Deities recommended: Cleopatra and Seshat.

Kansas_Wulf_Norsemaiden :

I’ve noticed that, it sucks.

El :

Preach preach preach 🥰🥰🥰

Goddess Divine Chaos :

this and thank you✨

Her Story :

Thank You;

🌌natashahauraki🌌 :

🔥🔥🔥

Moonlightfiredragon :

❤️❤️❤️

Rainbowreiki :

🙌

Jack Apiata :

👍👍👍

KW :

😌

Sara Cheville :

🖤🖤🖤

Zoila | Author| Artist| Shaman :

🔥💪

𝒜𝓈𝒾 𝒮𝓉𝒶𝓇-𝑅𝒽𝑜𝒶𝒹𝓈🧿 :

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Michelle Clark :

💯🎯