@elly.psychologist: If you leave nearly every difficult conversation in your relationship feeling like you are the problem, that is not automatically proof you need to work on yourself, it might actually be proof the conversation got redirected before you ever reached the real issue. One common pattern in a relationship like this is shifting the focus away from what actually happened and onto how you reacted to it, so raising something that genuinely hurt you gets met with are you seriously bringing this up right now or why are you always overreacting, and within a few sentences you are no longer talking about the original incident at all, you are defending your reaction instead, slowly absorbing the idea that you are too sensitive or simply too much for this relationship. Another pattern is a kind of role reversal, sometimes blunt, I cannot believe you are doing this to me again after everything I have done for you, which quietly makes you the villain in your own relationship, and sometimes softer and harder to spot, someone expressing so much visible guilt that you end up comforting them instead of ever getting a real resolution. Either way, the accountability that seemed to be forming a moment earlier disappears, and you are left more confused than before, stuck in a relationship where the actual issue somehow never gets properly addressed. It helps to learn to spot both patterns and gently bring the relationship conversation back to what actually happened, but it is also worth knowing that with some people this redirection never stops no matter how clearly you name it, and in those moments the better move is stepping away and finding support somewhere the real issue can finally be heard Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #relationshipabuse #relationshipproblems #relationshiptok #relationshiptips #relationshipissues

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Tuesday 18 August 2026 07:10:00 GMT