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i don’t want a relationship, i want a companionship.. like we’re just two people existing together until we die
2026-08-19 09:31:17
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cas ☣ :
I want a friendship with all the physical qualities of a relationship. kissing, cuddling, etc etc except there's no romantic feelings involved. its purely platonic.
2026-08-18 21:34:54
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Chuuya🍷 :
I am yearning for a queer platonic relationship something that isn't platonic, romantic nor sexual being loved the same way in return living with your qpr partner in an apartment until death tears them apart
2026-08-20 14:58:34
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YTG Adam :
Friendship is so gorgeous i dont get why its treated as inferior to romantic relationship
2026-08-18 20:11:26
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laudarcy :
aroace solitude is another kind of solitude fr
2026-08-18 20:59:33
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🅁ainFroggerZ :
Why is the world so love centered? Why is that the requirement for everyone’s life?
2026-08-19 03:44:37
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Leo 🩷 :
love being aroace but hate the fact that by the end of the day my family expects me to get married and have children. thats a nightmare 😭👋🏻
2026-08-21 14:13:44
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🪷🫀🦄 :
The most painful thing is that I will always be in 2nd place for someone because they will always love the person who loves them "more" than I do, more. And the people who put me first scare me away because they expect things from me that disgust me or that I am not capable of
2026-08-19 02:38:15
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Divine Catdog Creator ⭐️🔷 :
Being aroace and south Asian whos whole society judges you on being married, and having a family who wants you married as soon as possible genuinely is hell 4 me
2026-08-18 23:50:17
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mayappaloosa •ﻌ• :
becoming an adult and watching all your friends start to prioritize this part of their life is so harrowing bc there is nothing you can say about it. like yes i will probably be alone forever- it’s such an isolating experience 💔
2026-08-20 04:05:19
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user8372211984674 :
what gets me is just how much I DO understand it, and just how much I DON'T. I understand the desperation to feel loved, to not be alone, for human connection, for nonsexual and sexual intimacy, for a sharing of burdens and responsibilities, for a partner whenever and wherever. what I don't get is HOW that desperation is more important to people than independence, intelligence, and self love. how do so many people wholeheartedly claim someone's their soulmate, when they'll be broken up in months. how do they praise someone for being the best partner, solely because they do the bare minimum? how do they rely on love solely from familiarity, and treat actual beliefs and actions as secondary? how do you enter into a committed relationship BEFORE truly knowing someone? how do you feel comfortable not unpacking societal influences before you date, marry, and have kids? how are you so comfortable revolving your life around someone solely because you're attracted to them? why does attraction put someone above everyone else for you? why aren't platonic and non sexual relationships just as important? why is love permitting and excusing every bad behavior because you "love them", rather than only bettering each other through influence? I am NOT saying that all allo relationships are like this, but that dating culture tends to be like this overall, and being aro or ace just automatically makes you less likely to participate in it as directly or as society expects. Additionally, not that once you're physically attracted to someone you pursue them - I don't think allo people are animals - but I can't comprehend being attracted to someone without knowing them. A body is just an aesthetic object in my eyes, which only can become an object of attraction based on the brain that inhabits it. how can you want that from someone if for example they're just a mediocre or bad person? I understand this specific line of questioning isn't really fair and doesn't have moral answers, it's simply biological, but it confounds me just as much as the social aspects of dating.
2026-08-20 02:47:03
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philia ⏾ :
My inability to love someone romantically has never bothered me much, I’m naturally a distant and solitary person. But what really upsets me is how much people underestimate platonic love. To them, “friends” are just a step below a romantic relationship, they don’t consider it serious or worthwhile, as if it were somehow inferior.
2026-08-20 12:48:01
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brkkenstar :
I have a weird relationship with all of this, I don't think I'm fully aroace, I'm capable of feeling romantic feelings and attraction, but for me I just don't want this I'm happy to read romantic stories or making them up, but I myself don't want to be in the middle of this
2026-08-20 08:25:28
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konrad curze’s cake eater :
this gave me goosebumps
2026-08-20 21:47:46
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ᯓ . ᡣ𐭩 valentine ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁 🪦🪽 :
A want a friendship that mimics a romantic relationship even if no such feelings are involved, but I know that its not really possible and too difficult to explain so its a whatever
2026-08-18 20:52:04
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scara's right shoe :
love is such a huge spectrum and I refuse to believe I don't get to experience it, or maybe I do but differently therefore it's hard to tell, maybe my love is different but I hope it is still love too.
2026-08-20 04:48:28
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(^._.^)ﾉ :
being aro ace lowkey hurts the soul ngl ever since i realized that im aro I've had this sinking fear of being doomed to a lonely lonely future
2026-08-19 01:27:45
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mothy t :
I don't mind the aloneness I've already made peace with that but never being able to fit in a largely alloromantic society where people constantly talk about romance and getting isolated and unable to talk to most people does make me angry from time to time... your own family will look at you like a bug and you have to start making peace with never being understood as well
2026-08-19 03:18:43
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Icarus66 :
How do I explain I want a life partner but I don't want to be married, indulge in romance, have sex or raise kids? I hate feeling like I will never get to choose someone and be chosen for life without compromising on those things
2026-08-20 22:01:34
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mrswagners :
Am I the only one who loves it and prefers to be alone..?
2026-08-19 10:17:01
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faelivrin :
I don’t hate being aroace, but I do hate how much amatonormativity forces us to feel othered or lacking.
2026-08-20 15:13:22
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