Tell The Bees
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luce :
The anxiously attached are lowkey coercive 😳
2026-08-19 00:02:21
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A :
People balking at flock cameras but demanding sharing locations and access to their phones hmmm 🧐
2026-08-18 23:21:42
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missmokone_ :
Begging the anxiously attached/situationships people to realise they have agency and can use it, cause it’s giving
2026-08-19 06:52:10
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natalia :
I blame “He’s just not that into you” for not being a better movie bc that message was so important for the anxiously attached to grasp
2026-08-18 23:26:54
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Baurin :
They lost me at the harsh demonization of “ghosting”. When those ppl are STRANGERS that’s not real.
2026-08-19 04:29:17
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lauren.vorreiter :
It really does feel like the non-religious version of purity culture talking points. Which, truthfully, a lot of discourses these days sound exactly like stuff from growing up in church just without the biblical application. Instead of “because god says” it’s just “because I’m morally correct”
2026-08-19 01:04:42
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roseinaboxriles :
I work with young adults. One of my clients was so incredibly disregulated bc she was convinced her situationship (her words) was cheating on her. And I genuinely got SO confused and was like “did you guys say you’re exclusive?” And she said “what does that mean?” And I was like “did you both decide you will not see other people?” And she said “no why would I have to do that?” And I said “well…if you have not communicated and agreed to the expectation that you both are exclusive and can’t see other people, then he can see other people.” And she was so thrown off by that and thought I was the weird one. And then I followed up with “okay, well if that is a boundary for you, and you’re unhappy, and you don’t have to stay for safety reasons, and you *just* started seeing each other…maybe it’s not worth pursuing further?” And she was like “but I like him!!” It blew my mind.
2026-08-19 04:16:19
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Occasional Sith :
Way too many people are Carrie and are actively chasing a Mr. Big
2026-08-18 23:01:18
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Vanessa :
Their demonisation of avoidantly attached people, as if they are any better
2026-08-18 23:10:32
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Lena :
Anxiously attached people definitely do date each other and it results in codependency.
2026-08-21 01:31:19
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LaLaNece :
I’ve been saying that technology has enabled anxious attachment. This much access to people personally only continues to require more of people to not seem “avoidant”, when it’s really just appropriate boundaries
2026-08-18 23:59:14
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___DarkVader__ :
People act like once a person starts dating you they must necessarily agree to commit to you long term no matter what, any other outcome is the result of some narcissistic or avoidant manipulation. It’s just a way of not accepting rejection
2026-08-19 00:04:29
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blacklilithh :
Hard agree. My contribution is that I’ve seen lately the idea that situationships are inherently abusive. Which removes the responsibility from the anxiously attached. If someone tells you they don’t want a relationship, and then you catch feelings, you don’t get to shift the dynamics in your own head and then punish the other person for not aligning with them.
2026-08-19 03:37:59
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Hummmjuy :
Not going to lie this is why ppl were so upset with KC for not picking Aniya… on a reality tv show…after they knew each other for 2 weeks… like it was too much they were not compatible
2026-08-21 04:22:32
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Mel‼️ :
Heavy on nobody can have any fun. They are such buzz killingtons.
2026-08-21 00:35:12
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TheeJasmine_Symone :
I am so tired of people, not you, not using gaslighting and narcissist correctly 😭😭😭 like just say liar or manipulator or immature. Gaslighting and narcissist are very specific things!
2026-08-19 02:14:53
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brittanyciresi :
I 100% agree with this take as a formerly anxiously attached person! I do just want to come to a slight defense for some anxiously attached people - at least for myself I was younger and needed to learn that lesson through dating, but I always just wished the men I was involved with would have noticed my desire for more and let me go completely- they did ALOT to keep me around or get me back and it would work sometimes, I think that’s the yucky part - especially because many times the men were older than me/ so that’s what feels coercive about it. Not that this is everyone’s story, but I feel like it would resonate for a lot of young women dating for the first time.
2026-08-20 22:27:16
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chiara :
They hold us hostage with their delusions💀💀💀
2026-08-20 17:44:22
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tsftedits :
I also hate the concept of “wasting my time” as if getting married it’s the only goal and you have to reach it at certain time. Also, as if loving, caring and spending time with someone isn’t as value just because you didn’t marry that person
2026-08-19 13:40:36
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Hannah 🇨🇦 :
Also the way they say anyone who doesn’t think exactly like them is avoidant
2026-08-19 12:10:00
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Victoria B. :
I also think it’s dangerous for people to identify with “anxious” or “avoidant labels. I feel like if you go around thinking “I have an anxious attachment” that hand waves away shitty behavior, like “this is just who I am”. Either your partner is doing something to trigger your anxiety and you need examine what that is or you need to reign in your least helpful tendencies.
2026-08-19 07:20:35
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Julia Allen :
Anxiously attached people don’t realize they create victims too!! The REASON I’m avoidantly attached is because my first girlfriend was so anxiously attached she would imply she’d kill herself if I left her and now I’m scared to get too close to someone because they might end up the same
2026-08-19 01:16:33
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bl3333333hh :
Ummm it’s never the avoidants dating other avoidants either. One is clearly moving toward relationship, albeit insecurely, while one is seeking the benefits of a relationship without wanting to do any of the hard stuff associated with having one
2026-08-19 01:27:18
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Em :
i think some of this (dating to marry, no one is allowed to just have fun, etc.) is also a correlation with our conservative/fascist government seeping into society
2026-08-19 00:46:23
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sundaya :
i've said repeatedly....anxious and avoidant attachment are both dysfunctional. one isn't better than the other.
2026-08-19 03:02:51
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