@dr_mikem: The number one way to stop being a reactive parent. The yell that’s out of your mouth before your brain catches up? That’s not a character flaw. That’s your nervous system reacting faster than you can think. The fix isn’t a technique or a perfect script. It’s a pause. One breath. One second of space between what your child does and what you do next - just enough to get your thinking brain back online. And every time you pause instead of react, your child is learning to do the same. They don’t learn regulation from what we say. They learn it from us You’ve got this!!