Dr. Ruth | That Was Abuse
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Wednesday 19 August 2026 21:09:05 GMT
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Tamara :
"Why are you STILL talking about what happened to you today? Leave your workstuff at work. You know I don't care right?" (my ex)
2026-08-19 22:14:58
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Apple User279348618 :
That man was cruel af. I’m so glad you are out,
2026-08-19 21:51:20
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Ellestra :
I have the feeling that every one of these is still going to be abuse. But I think that calling out these small behaviors is really helpful for a lot of people.
2026-08-19 23:11:42
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shelley duvall’s cigarette ash :
God that is heartbreaking. I’m so glad you realized you deserved better.
2026-08-19 22:00:03
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Aaron Wilson :
I talked about how close a car got to taking out my ankles/knees with the tires at work (it literally scraped my Achilles heel and calves and gave me a good scrape) and having an issue with my own mortality, she said that it wasn't that bad and I should focus on -insert random thing she thinks I should fix here- for over 30 min, to which I ended up apologizing for.
2026-08-21 15:12:52
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fomrade :
His comment was heinous. That was so belittling and invalidating! After all your hard work, everything you accomplished, all he had to say in the face of your very human uncertainty about the future was to dismiss you. Real love uplifts you, celebrates you, and stands by you. I’m so glad you came to understand that was abuse and that you left and healed. 💜
2026-08-19 21:51:31
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Christian Briggs :
Did you ever find out if he replaced the bath mats?
2026-09-10 13:19:33
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afrognamedlump :
thank you for REAL examples of abuse, and reassuring me that the gaslighting my ex threw at me was the real abuse, and not i being abusive.
2026-09-14 17:10:56
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Jelly :
our last date was our 13th wedding anniversary, I planned it, obviously. I told him the day well in advance in case it didn't work for him. I got all dressed up which I never do because when I do he always not picked and made me feel like trash. he spent the whole time watching the world series on his phone. in 13 years of marriage he had never once shown an interest in baseball but that night it was the most important thing in the world. I left a week later. I don't know if that counts as abuse but it was just another way he made me feel unimportant and invisible
2026-09-10 17:49:43
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B the Dogmom 🦋 :
Ugh SO many similarities! After all the line, cheating, gaslighting, lost addiction, triangulation, dismissing, deflecting, rage 0 to 100 when asked any question at all. Defensiveness for all things. Emotional incapability. Mental incapability. And after leaving twice, yes, twice and worse – coming back both times because he “changed“. Wow, nothing changed. And although the abuse continues, I still find myself attempting to be human and confiding in the husband because that’s human nature.
2026-08-19 21:17:11
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Ashley Leigh :
I wish we could swap notes..cause I think I absurdly don’t know what’s happening to me
2026-09-13 01:36:51
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lynne ❤️ :
"I was invisible" I literally felt it. I wanted to just fade away, to nothing because thay person made me feel that way
2026-08-20 17:53:32
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Alaxandria Derby-Voisin :
thankfully he's never been outwardly cruel but I'm about 95% percent sure I may as well be the parents from Charlie Brown when I talk to him
2026-09-03 06:16:50
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Party Planner 24 :
I know that this is incredibly difficult for you. Thank you for sharing— and I see you and am inspired by you.
2026-08-20 02:47:23
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hiptobesquare :
my last date I said fuck it and took a cab home and watched, but it’s now my comfort movie, first wives club.
2026-08-22 03:35:48
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chaosangel888 :
Mine literally said “haha this is a joke, maybe you bring out the abuse in the relationship “ I left 4 days later when the papers were ready
2026-08-24 21:48:48
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VaughnDM :
I was just thinking about you. I just blocked my ex from ALL platforms after she accused me of fraud and a ton of other allegations that cause me to question my beliefs.
2026-08-20 02:30:37
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Angela de Bye🇸🇷 :
I recognize myself in so many of your stories. I left the relationship after 14 years. The best decision I’ve ever made
2026-08-20 12:33:14
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Emmy_M :
Wait, yours took you on dates??
2026-08-19 21:31:37
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Dedee4740 :
Yes when I had to co-parent with my ex there were many times he reminded me why I left.
2026-08-24 12:49:20
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Shelly🦋 :
As someone who left a ten year abusive marriage and is still healing thank you for sharing. These are so validating and make me feel a lot less alone in the things I can’t tell others just yet 💜
2026-09-05 12:30:23
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Alex :
The last day we spent together we went for tacos which I paid for, he got me DQ and bought me some clothes and I got myself some socks and cute sandals with a gift card my mom had given me for Christmas. We also went to Target so he could check if they had Pokémon cards. It was actually a nice day but the whole time I knew I was ending it and got more anxious the closer it was to go home together. My family was on standby and waiting for me to tell him I was leaving so they could come pick me up with some of my things. I think he was trying to “make up” for how he was the day before. He talked down to me in front of his family and I stood up to him and gave him the same energy he gave me. He was a jerk about me cutting the grass and tried to tell me I didn’t know how to use it and tried to control the whole thing. I had been crying every day for two weeks before then because I just couldn’t anymore.
2026-08-21 19:48:15
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Rubix, Cube and Marilyn :
My ex wouldn’t say anything, often times I’d ask him if he was listening and when he said he was I’d ask him to repeat because I was pretty certain he wasn’t and he’d refuse calling me crazy for asking that… instead of reassuring me and yeah in those moments I did wonder if I was the one who was crazy and not ok
2026-08-21 13:56:29
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purpleglitta :
I’m so sorry. I have been there. I’m so glad you are out.
2026-08-21 01:15:53
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Nikki Victor :
Girl 😭 I’m still trying to finalise my divorce, 2 YEARS later
2026-08-20 19:08:25
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