@loudly.leo: I think back on this version of me with such tenderness. She was doing what she knew to do. Perform. Help. Sweep under the rug. Smile. And keep everything perfect. #relationships #breakup #separation #cheating #healing
I'm so grateful I kept a journal from that time, because my ex really had me believing it was all my fault. At one point, when I asked her point blank if she thought she was even capable of no longer cheating, she said "if I can be satisfied sexually, then yeah maybe"
2026-08-20 22:13:52
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abaetol :
Your ex was wrong to ask that of you. And yet, isn’t it amazing how brilliant our brains are in constructing ways to protect us? It was helping you get to each next phase and survive. You were always fighting for LEO in some way.
2026-08-21 01:25:09
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Over it🙃 :
Mine had a 4 year long emotional affair and I proceeded to “work on me” to better myself FOR HIM 😭
2026-08-20 14:49:28
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The Glitter Fairy 🏳️🌈🍉🇺🇦 :
Oh my - I found out 4 days before Christmas 😭😭 it was the worst. Christmas, New Years, my birthday, VDay, and our anniversary all followed within a 2~ month period 😭😭 truly struggled. And then I moved out a month after our 4 year anniversary. Now it’s been 8 months since the break up and I’m in therapy. 🖤
2026-08-20 15:18:56
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houseplantacula :
I used to literally say “I’m going to try and become a different person” so that I could stay 💔💔💔
2026-08-20 13:39:44
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Shane :
Similar I worked more to provide more. Took over every aspect of home life, cleaning, cooking, laundry the works. Made more time for date nights weekly, became even more involved in son’s day to day life. After a year it still was not enough or good enough. The knowledge if I couldn’t make it work, I would lose access to my son as I was threatened with daily. Not many realize just how few rights a father has when not married to the kids. That fear of and knowledge of how the family court system works. Kept me staying well beyond the time I should have ended it. Plenty more behind the scenes besides infidelity that was present. Some might understand has been 6 years, and only this cpl years have I been able to decorate the walls.
2026-08-20 13:15:54
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Quesadilla lover Charlie Diaz :
My dog died leaving. I wish I had stayed.
2026-08-20 15:38:20
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🫶🏼 :
I see so many parallels in our experiences and I just really appreciate you sharing it. Thank you.
2026-08-20 21:42:03
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