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Lisa 🏳️🌈🇨🇦 :
I’ve absolutely sabotaged friendships because I couldn’t understand that someone would want to help me without expecting me to “pay them back”. I lost some really wonderful because I couldn’t see beyond that. Whewwwwwww.
2026-08-20 21:07:42
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Karen Oliver :
Omg this is so me and my mom. She demands to be thanked profusely for anything she does. She will bring it up repeatedly and wants a text, a call, a note. At Christmas she wants it known what she gave
2026-08-21 14:38:21
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Jasmine :
so relieved I found this account. speaking on so much that I’ve been thru and feel every day. it’s not the generic “toxic dynamic” propaganda being repeated everywhere. I can tell how self aware you’ve had to become to undo a lot of these patterns. I’m trying to do the same
2026-08-21 20:51:27
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Lilypiper :
Resonates deeply. I want relationships and yet when someone shows interest my first thought is what do they want from me? And the mental gymnastics to figure out how to please them begins…. And then I spend time and energy and resources trying to understand and heal my patterns. It’s utterly exhausting
2026-08-21 04:19:21
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Lissie :
Ew of course. social interactions feel like obligations because they’re attached to a huge amount of work we feel we have to do. Never connected that.
2026-08-21 03:20:06
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SummerSpice💖 :
I love thinking in terms of fantasy too.
2026-08-20 23:37:15
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Bine :
when I was 8 yrs old, a 6 yr-old fro music school told everyone he was so in love in me and wants to marry me when we grow up. The adults kept coming to me going "aww he is so in love with you" and I started crying uncontrollably bc I thought I have now to ruin my life bc I had to marry him so I don't ruin his life and I felt bad. Like "if he loves me, that means I have to love him back"
2026-08-21 05:42:37
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SenoActaGamet :
"I don't have to accept crumbs"
2026-08-20 20:50:38
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punk pup :
In my last relationship I was a therapist, healer, someone to use for sex but it was almost like they acknowledged me from time to time. And when I had a bad day or needed care they just ignored it, or when I started letting go of hobbies, dreams or lived in a super harmful toxic situation that they knew of, they couldn't care less but blamed it on ignorance. Now Im single, cut away the people that used me and I'm slowly getting a spark back and a sense of self but I doubt if Ill trust or try to date again, because I'll rather eat a hat than be a caretaker ever again. (I was parentified and also mentally abused from childhood to 18 and then more etc) So I'll have a magical life without people I'm close to if I have to, if that is what is needed.
2026-08-21 10:56:56
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Rembulan Nauli :
this is so difficult for me too… i dont even know what dynamic my parents created towards me for me to have this complex
2026-08-21 07:30:23
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Frankie S :
Again ur speaking to my soul. My phone is such a trigger. I turn of notifications and then I worry about checking my msgs. The amount of ppl I just let go off cos I can’t deal with it. Im trying to work on it by being aware and trying to have the right friendships/relationships around me.
2026-08-20 22:36:26
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williamwood :
Yooooo spot on, appreciate your vids, take care ✌️😄
2026-08-21 02:47:19
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dipsybla :
oh that's what that is 🥲
2026-08-20 21:16:48
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Dulcet Devotion | Melanie :
this!
2026-08-20 20:19:14
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