Hadley (Vlahos) Fairley
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thatmassholemidwife :
I've been with my husband for 31 years and the overwhelming majority of it has been incredible. when we say marriage is hard we don't mean the whole marriage for him and I it means that there are times in marriage that are hard. moments in time that one of us is going through something or both of us are going through something and it's not ideal never mind perfect and being able to work through those moments of our marriage being hard has made it so that when those things arise later or when something happens again that's similar to what we'd already worked through we already kind of know how we're going to handle it because we went through that hard time. for example my husband and I handle grief very differently and so when we lost someone that was incredibly close to both of us we struggled and that month or so afterwards was pretty hard because we were both grieving and needed each other but neither one of us had the capability of being fully on board for how the other one breathed and supporting that now we know that if that were to ever happen again that we need to depend on outside people for each of our individual personalities while letting each other know how the other one is doing. still talking still communicating still grieving but I go to my friend Jamie or my friend Bobby he goes to his couple of friends. we also don't believe in taking our problems to another person outside of her marriage of the opposite sex because that just entangles things and makes things worse so when we say marriage is hard what we're actually saying is marriage can be hard
2026-11-10 20:48:49
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ilovexgw99c :
Marriage isn’t hard, but it takes work. There’s a difference
2026-08-21 22:29:17
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Cassi⚡ :
life is hard... marriage makes it easier
2026-08-21 23:53:47
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Keke’s Kindle :
“The ability to endure a terrible marriage is NOT an accomplishment” 👏🏽
2026-08-21 23:21:44
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Gworl :
HEAVY on the “marriage is hard” advice. My marriage is super easy because he’s my best friend. I feel bad for those who think it’s supposed to be hard.
2026-08-21 22:02:05
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ChristyMomOfBoys :
Marriage is not 50/50. That’s divorce. Marriage is 100/100. You both have to be all in all the time.
2026-08-22 02:59:15
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proseandroses 🇺🇲 :
My husband always says that marriage is never really 50/50- it's 80/20 and then it's 30/70 and then 90/10 and then 25/75 and that's natural because we are human and our needs and abilities vary. It's showing up when your partner can't carry their load and being supported when you can't carry yours.
2026-08-21 22:05:39
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Alyssa Hailer :
everytime I hear somebody had a long marriage, I always ask "were you in a happy marriage". only 1 person has said yes
2026-08-22 13:00:12
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🌻🃏Kayla🃏🌻 :
Me and my husband do 100/100. If one of us fall short then the other picks it up.
2026-08-21 22:03:41
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Tamara :
All solid takes. I think the phrase “marriage is hard” keeps victims in abusive marriages.
2026-08-22 00:38:45
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The Other Allie :
My husband is an adhd hobbit, my “marriage is hard” moments are looking for a tool in the garage and never finding what i need because the organization of my husband makes no sense lol. This weekend I couldn’t find hedge clippers so I used my garden pruners and my hands still hurt lol.
2026-11-04 16:31:03
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Vandia :
32 years of marriage and enduring is not an accomplishment. So hoping I am finally getting to a point where I can walk away. 32 years of belittling does incredible damage. Get out fast! Don’t walk, run.
2026-08-22 03:43:27
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Dawn_BzowyDesigns :
There should be a semester in high schools, maybe part of PE/health requirements, that teaches how to recognize signs of DV. Prepare our children for healthier life styles. just a thought...
2026-08-21 22:08:54
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Candace Lynn :
I love saying Marriage isn't 50/50; it's 100/100. Each person should be giving their 100% to the best of their ability. in each season that might look different, but you're all in no matter what
2026-09-02 20:08:36
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monicalikefriends :
My parents have been in a happy and healthy marriage for over 40 years and my mom once told me that she never thought marriage was hard. She said "LIFE is hard, but marriage with the right person isn't." That's something I've realized is very true in my marriage.
2026-09-02 20:56:29
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tdkk2001 :
marriage is 100%/100%.
2026-08-22 00:38:50
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Bestie on a Budget :
I love the show Kevin Can Go F Himself because it exposes how we see these tropes in media and absorb them as normal
2026-08-22 20:16:01
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Kdlaemmle :
The one I’ve always hated is “Don’t go to bed mad”. Sometimes you need to sleep on it to not commit violence so then when you wake up in the morning, you can calmly talk and move on lol 😂
2026-08-24 11:09:45
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Laurie B.✝️☦️🇺🇸🐊🌴fl❌ :
That ring!!
2026-08-26 04:14:22
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Bethany :
YEP. I stayed in an abusive relationship for way too long because I thought it was supposed to be hard.
2026-08-21 22:31:49
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The Amazing Amanda S :
1.. I think you would make a great therapist!! ❤️
2026-08-21 22:32:06
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Star :
I've been married for a while now and let me tell you, marriage is so easy. yes life can suck and my marriage is consistently the safest and easiest part of my life
2026-08-22 08:35:23
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allisondraste :
Marriage to the right person is so easy
2026-08-25 09:35:17
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Disney Mama :
Telling him I need him in “listening mode” and NOT “fix it mode” was a GAME CHANGER!
2026-08-22 00:42:10
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drama queen 101 :
advice i hate is "never ever go to bed angry". like sometimes we just need to sleep it off and wake up to see if we were tired and unnecessary or if its still bothering us. most times we sort it out before bed but sometimes between work stress, finance, family etc, it can get frustrating
2026-08-30 05:36:01
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