Dr. Nicole LePera
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Saturday 22 August 2026 00:27:54 GMT
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desi :
I wish you could explain these issues (maybe in a second video) in a way that helps the person who is doing the harm. I find that just calling it out isn’t really helpful. And like you said, it’s likely developmental. There has to be a way for the emotional maturity to expand, no? And maybe if it was explained from a more .. intentionally compassionate? .. angle it would help the people who are often forced into these dynamics (like parents) feel a little less rage-y? Or perhaps reach people who are both doing this and victims of it better. It’s not unlikely for a child to have similar patterns as the adults that raised them.. so good chance that if someone is feeling wronged by a parent who was like this, they might be doing it too, no?
2026-08-24 18:48:16
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Luna 🍉 (Sib No. 38) :
My mom tends to go the victim route, the “I guess I’m the worst mother. I did my best, y’know.” and I have given up on coddling her. I’ll literally go “Yeah, well, your best wasn’t enough, and yeah, sometimes it felt like you were the worst mother. Sit with that.”
2026-08-22 00:51:30
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Sheirjbenwiahwbw :
It’s a lot easier to keep them out of your circle. Not worth it.
2026-08-22 05:01:42
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Human on Earth :
Grey rock@
2026-08-24 06:47:32
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thebrookswelch :
They love to get caught on definitions of words
2026-08-24 14:52:28
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Nancy :
Everything is a game that has a winner. Ugh. It’s exhausting. I don’t want to play.
2026-08-22 12:06:58
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❌️❌URBAN ANGEL❌️❌️ :
The Incessive Audacity of always wanna be right, knowing deep down inside they're DEAD WRONG.
2026-08-23 09:54:31
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Plot;Twist :
It's such a weird energy.
2026-08-22 18:10:19
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Catherine :
This really helped me solve an issue I’m having, thanks Doc!
2026-08-23 21:01:01
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Jersey :
The videos are phenomenal 👏👏👏
2026-08-22 13:28:09
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FromClutterToConfidence :
Always assume anything you say can and will be used against you. Even seemingly harmless topics like gardening can be twisted against you. Say less and remain calm. At least that’s what I do with my family members.
2026-08-22 14:12:25
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sunshinezenwillow :
My mother to a tee! So we don’t speak. I’m happier! Am I sad I don’t have the beautiful mother/daughter relationship I’ve always wanted, sure. But I’m not willing to suffer through a relationship with someone I have to constantly defend myself against.
2026-08-22 14:09:28
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The TH-HAIR-APIST :
Or, when you walk away leaving them to deal with their feelings, be prepared for them to start a fight out of nowhere over nothing within the next couple of days, as a form of revenge control
2026-08-22 07:38:00
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Deb :
Yep. I used to have to write letters to my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex-husband so he couldn’t twist my words.
2026-08-22 15:45:40
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Killbill11130 :
Nicole you have been saying so many things recently that have helped me
2026-08-24 18:11:57
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Jess (💕👑) :
and this is why i have to pray/meditate etc everytime i walk out my room bc my mom & grandma are both toxic as absolute hell
2026-08-22 05:00:28
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🌹Rosetta🌹 :
talking to these people is like EATING A CACTUS 🌵😩
2026-08-23 11:09:36
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miss teri :
I just stopped talking to anyone
2026-08-22 02:51:05
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Whatever :
Wish I knew this stuff 16 years ago 😭
2026-08-22 06:31:33
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Miss Ma'am :
This is my brother 100% and this is why I'm no contact. Your videos help me to see what he does and why he does them without getting irrationally and explosively angry.
2026-08-22 02:34:07
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Author David B Long :
my mom ..
2026-08-22 02:35:57
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JVH :
My last relationship. 100%
2026-08-22 01:57:27
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chassidygrace :
Yeah that is the only thing that works for me with my mother. I started speaking in a completely different tone of voice with her now. As in I drop my voice, I only say it once, and there is no room for her to detect malice, joy, or anger. She can’t detect anything. And some days, she thinks she’s got me. But when it comes time to do what she does best, she hates it. But she can’t say I did anything, because what’s there to nitpick? She doesn’t have access to who I really am anymore. Which means you can’t insult the me. The real me.
2026-08-22 01:43:26
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user pugsexplore+horses :
Why is that emotional reaction so meaningful to them?
2026-08-24 13:13:04
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BlueBloods :
NO ! THATS A NARCISSIST !
2026-08-24 11:42:24
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