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H :
"You're so strong, you're resilient, you're tough" Sometimes these feel like a slap in the face.
2026-08-29 23:20:49
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J🇵🇷 :
I hate the " but you look great" 🥺
2026-08-22 17:44:37
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Purdey1814 :
'I don't know how you do it!' yep, me neither Jan but here we are...
2026-08-22 14:15:44
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ChrissyCariola :
Being “strong” comes with a price and it’s a very, very high one.
2026-08-23 18:19:18
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healerbringinglight0218 :
yes it's frankly annoying. Im not being strong I'm just living.
2026-08-22 13:21:44
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MEG ❤️ :
I also think it can seem like they see how much you are struggling to push through and rather than encourage rest, they compliment it as strength. It makes it feel like failure when pushing through no longer works.
2026-08-22 14:03:11
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🌙willowbugs🍁 :
I just want people to stop putting more on me because I don't look ill
2026-08-22 14:00:17
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Larkspur <3 :
as someone with chronic pain and a history of a lot of trauma, its so painful to hear. i dont want to be strong, I want to be safe. I want to be healthy. its brutal
2026-08-24 02:55:51
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Lisa Siems :
I hate it when people tell me that being a DV survivor and then 4 and 1/2 5 years ago my body goes to pod find out I have all three types of psoriatic arthritis so during this disease connective tissue disorder tendonitis yeah somebody says oh you're so strong it's like please don't you don't even know I don't want to be strong
2026-08-26 01:54:12
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er_bear5 :
I opened up to a friend recently and she said, “you’re stronger than you think.” Girl, I know I’m strong, I’ve been doing this for 3 years on my own, I’m f@#%ig exhausted
2026-08-28 01:23:59
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Gen❌️MeanMommy :
Like we were given a choice but to be strong.
2026-08-22 13:12:43
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Nairalee :
They only say it to make themselves feel good,
2026-08-22 13:11:09
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🇵🇦Bettyboopgirl🇵🇷 :
My family tells me all you’re too young to have this and my other favorite is you need to get off of your medication and try a more holistic approach. When I tried everything in my power and nothing’s worked.
2026-08-24 02:05:38
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Amy Villarreal72 :
My favorite from doctors. “You’re color is good” of course it is I’m Irish heritage and have rosacea
2026-08-23 23:54:45
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Loving Lilith :
and, "Oh, well you couldn't tell by looking at you, you look good" 😡
2026-08-25 01:52:33
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SharonB60 :
Ya I thought that’s what you were going to say. I’m exhausted from being strong for Decades. All by myself. Ugh
2026-08-23 17:46:02
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Mike :
I agree I hate hearing this.
2026-08-22 13:31:16
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curvespective2 :
Yeah I had a friend tell me: I couldn’t do it. I looked at her and said: it’s not like I have a choice…
2026-08-22 14:41:41
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CinderCNA :
I hate that compliment. I just want someone to see me. I want them to see how hard it really is. My families favorite compliment is “You’re so strong and God only gives you what you can handle” I wish God didn’t have such a faith in me.
2026-08-22 17:22:54
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Granny Franny 👵 :
I thought you were going to say, “You’re so brave.” That rubs me the wrong way but I know they mean well.
2026-08-22 12:31:22
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Latarran Brown269 :
What’s even worse is “you look like you are feeling better and you’re up more you must be” those are usually some of my worst days
2026-08-23 04:00:42
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Jessica Luers :
I talked with palliative about my case cause it's a serious situation. Nutrition causes me severe pain outside of having Gastroparesis and none of my other disabilities POTS, Issac Syndrome, Small Fiber Neuropathy, None Epileptic Episodes, post TBI etc. can't be regulated at all. And no health care professional can help me anymore. I've had comments "at least you look good even though you might be feeling bad". Invisible illness is hard to navigate.
2026-08-23 02:33:23
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caraleeannerhartl📚📖 :
so so so very true
2026-08-22 12:12:11
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electricache :
you do everything you can until your body finally gives out
2026-08-25 21:02:59
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Chaos😈Gremlin :
I've heard I'm so resilient
2026-08-26 03:22:16
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