Grow with Kaela
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tishadcg :
I do not think that you people understand. We are aware but we cannot change it. I spend 3 years healing and going to therapy only to end up the same as I was but only with more awareness.
2026-08-23 12:37:35
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Lynn 💜 :
With Therapy can they not recognize and make changes?
2026-10-01 16:39:30
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Andrew H :
This is good to hear. One of the hardest thing about recovering from the trauma of a severe dismissive avoidant person is the lack of any information THEY share about why they are doing what they’re doing. They provide no explanation just silence and gaslighting. Everything I know about what happened to me has been told to me by either a therapist or this kind of content. Now it all makes sense, but it took a long time piece it altogether. And it leaves you with the urge to explain to them what they are doing. The Fantasy that you can tell them all about their attachment style, and it will somehow lead to an epiphany was one of the last things I had to let go to complete my healing journey. But even now Occasionally I imagine breaking ‘no contact’ just to send them words to help them have an epiphany about the damage they’ve gone and for their own healing. Of course it’s pointless. They have to make this realization themselves.
2026-08-22 20:18:34
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JetsettingGinger :
Too bad his therapist is keeping him stuck by telling him he’s secure
2026-08-23 02:13:46
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@shareddevabytes :
is it because of the DSM......... this toxic asf...... they are violating my body though.....
2026-10-02 21:45:34
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Pork Q Pine :
I told my ex flat out that if she keeps having the exact same problem in every relationship, then maybe she needs to look at the common factor in all of them.
2026-08-22 22:15:46
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Marc Buek :
Sad but true… Lost cause, espcially for the more severe ones.. Just run..
2026-08-22 20:01:48
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frau_ruckt :
Do you offer sessions!??
2026-09-23 21:11:37
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Wendy📖🐈TdJ/JW :
I actually find flaws or something that gives me reason to leave 🤷🏻♀️later i realized i made a mistake that person wasn't that bad 😬
2026-08-24 12:45:25
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Dianne Markus :
Oh no, he doesn’t recognise, he thinks he attracts drama. He is the drama
2026-09-02 12:18:10
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Carrie :
So what is the difference between a DA and a narcissist with avoidant traits?
2026-08-25 14:14:52
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brunetteandherbulldog :
If they can verbalize their patterns to you, is there really an excuse for their behavior?
2026-08-25 13:25:07
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Carla R :
so many things in my life just instantly improved when i stopped reaching out to her. i cant believe i had so much hope she would change. 😳😏
2026-08-22 22:01:29
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Michael :
at last someone that doesn't sugarcoat it and tell it like it is. you can see a lot of other videos that tell you how to behave to get what you want from an avoidant or how they can heal but nothing you'll do will be enough unless they get therapy (and even then it might take years before real change)
2026-08-23 00:20:59
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Melly🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 :
My DA narc has 0 awareness on patterns of behaviour as hes always right and never self reflects , only passes blame
2026-08-25 23:54:07
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Tik Toker :
He really tried but I only noticed after the fact, once I learned more about myself and themselves. I put my foot down and expected more when he was doing his best. its sad. for both of us.
2026-08-23 14:41:19
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RealPhilTurner :
Where are the female former DAs telling their true stories of the brick walls they ran into that forced them to take accountability and un-corrupt themselves??😳
2026-08-23 01:22:24
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. :
But what if they are avoidant in friendships but not their romantic relationships
2026-08-22 21:42:28
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Joy | Silver Hair Glow Up 📲 :
62 years old and he has zero clue at the deeply cruel damage that he’s done! 🙄
2026-08-24 14:54:58
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E 💖 :
They understand the pattern theoretically but they use that as a way to further avoid - focus on intellectualising it instead of actual vulnerability so they can tell themselves they’re “trying”
2026-08-24 02:27:21
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Bpunchy :
I am getting better at figuring it out as I do it .. and I'm a DA
2026-08-23 06:51:10
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@shareddevabytes :
im just trying to understand the full situation
2026-10-02 21:43:30
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ChiMike2232 :
I love your posts! Thank you. I've just become aware that my wife was a DA. That awareness has been calming.
2026-09-05 19:07:20
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gjk :
let them
2026-09-01 17:58:56
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Steven W :
yes
2026-08-23 03:15:22
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