LizzyHolisticVibes☘️🌿 :
This post made me remember my ex fiancee whom I relocated from Lagos to Abuja to meet, so we can head home from Abuja to the village since it's easy and cheaper to go to the village from Abuja than Lagos. Mine you our relationship of 3 years was a distance relationship, we do visits each other time to time until I finally moved to Abuja to meet him. I found out this guy has numerous girlfriends, some of them will come visiting and he will offer them a sit inside the room even when I'm around without introducing them to me or introducing me to them. Whenever I complain he would say he has nothing to do with them that they are just his friends or he would say I'm nagging. After 4 months in Abuja, the money i have saved to support our wedding i started spending it on food, skincare, hair and everything else as he wasn't providing for me and he said I shouldn't work.Every night I would cry and asked God if that was the same guy I had dated for 3 years? It got to a point when my love for him eventually disappeared, I was still staying with him, but I started working against his wish and I was saving money to move out of his house. I no longer allow him touch, I no longer ask why he didn't come back early, I no longer care about or his two girlfriends who usually text me and insult me or tell me to leave their man, they would tell me how he said I was the one forcing myself on him. After 3 months of work and savings, I got my own apartment and I moved out taking with me all my belongings I came with. After he returns from work and find out I had moved out, he called me and told me, I can't survive without him, that he was the one who brought me to Abuja and I cannot get back on my feet without him. It's been 5 years and the dude is still begging for forgiveness. Still unmarried till today.
My advice to my fellow women is that, don't love blindly, never you relocate to another state to meet a man who's not fully your husband, never you stay idle without making your own money and never hesitate to quit when your mental health and happiness is as stake.
2026-08-25 09:03:58