Delicto
Region: US
Sunday 23 August 2026 20:02:07 GMT
85167
4274
77
240
Music
Download
Comments
Nik Pik 🇨🇦 :
This is a very Esther Perel perspective, but it is not the only perspective. What the relationship requires is novelty and you can get that by creating distance, but you can also get that by seeking deeper more vulnerable sexual interactions with each other, which is also a kind of normal.
2026-08-24 05:35:29
27
user8611224095735 :
Esther Perel draws the same conclusions in her book Mating in Captivity. You have summarised one of her chapters succinctly.
2026-08-24 04:37:27
6
fizzlesprok :
Short answer? Both people aren’t working to keep the spark. Try new things. Have fun. Keep dating each other
2026-08-23 20:16:11
312
Shellin_the_sun :
My 30 year marriage is full of passion. Sparks EVERYWHERE. We do everything together and change in front of each other daily- this message is a huge over generalization- it is not factual for everyone. People in midlife- deal with your hormones and keep the spark alive.
2026-08-24 17:28:24
71
NocturneHunter21 :
the spark is MEANT to die. it turns into comfort. that's NORMAL
2026-08-24 12:02:26
75
CoffeeCowx :
It doesn't always die.
2026-08-25 04:23:59
6
✨ Mystery ✨ :
30 years here. Great advice. I would say also become a little less available once in a while. I don’t mean to make your first jealous, but just make them wonder.
2026-08-24 19:00:38
10
also.cat :
sparks wither when you no longer are your own person
2026-08-23 22:50:08
24
Ashley Andrews :
Because “the spark” is a smokescreen. It’s an illusion. It’s not real! You’ll spend the rest of your life chasing “the spark” and it’ll continue to disappear until you learn the lessons
2026-09-14 18:42:59
4
radarstation :
More and more people are realizing you don’t have to live together. It’s impossible to not settle into more of a roommate scenario when you live together, but living separate lives (together) really help keep things interesting.
2026-08-24 15:49:06
5
Rachie24 :
Food for thought. I’ve been with the same person since I was 19. I didn’t realize being inseparable wasn’t necessarily good. Something I’ve to realize as I’ve aged.
2026-08-23 20:11:38
5
jar :
agree 100% with this and I think the challenge is communicating it in a way that doesn't feel like you're creating distance to avoid the person or their habits, but rather making a game out of "missing" each other 🔥
2026-08-23 20:43:13
5
heartcmp :
I thibk the spark lives in the little things. the things that are mine. the way he holds a glass... I know that grip. the little noises he makes upon entrance... mine. you never know everything about your partner but the willingness to keep choosing to reach for more. see more. finding some novelty in familiarity is a choice.
2026-08-24 18:21:33
7
rocke621154 :
I have been with my husband for 15 years and it is as good, if not way better than it has ever been. we still want each other just as much and still manage to find new things to try all the time 🤷
2026-08-27 13:19:52
4
tosted :
love this! I've been in a relationship for almost 8 years and we keep making sparks. we just have to comunication clearly about what we want 💕
2026-08-24 14:30:06
3
GMsRollWithIt :
My wife stopped desiring me after the birth of our first child and didn't reappear until 16 years later after I finally stopped trying to initiate altogether so this makes sense.
2026-08-23 20:36:09
6
Steven Jones :
love that acronym
2026-09-04 15:03:14
1
HippieJackalope :
Lack of verity will kill even the strongest desire
2026-08-24 17:06:32
2
seangettinghuge :
This is one reason that non-monogamy can really help maintain the soark in every relationship involved
2026-08-24 02:01:07
5
Shampoo101 :
28 years! And still going strong. Communicate!!!!
2026-08-24 19:33:44
1
Recker the 🇵🇷 DM :
Im gonna give this a try because in my relationship im eternally yearning for her but it doesnt seem reciprocal and ive tried alot on my end no more showing the good all the time lol
2026-08-26 09:32:00
2
DatGooseDoe :
for me right now it's Peri menopause and an inability to tolerate man made hormones 😭
2026-08-24 12:15:25
1
user3934729027429 :
familiarity breeds contempt
2026-09-13 22:46:01
1
salinagilbertson :
23 years.. still there. It helps we only get to see each other every two weeks. And a huge life scare two years ago.
2026-09-04 02:25:30
1
To see more videos from user @delicto.com, please go to the Tikwm
homepage.
