@mackenzieherman: The breakup usually is a sign of overwhelm and eventually, shutdown. At the breakup, they feel strongly about their reasons for the ending, and they have had time to process it. Now, months later, they are rethinking everything. These stages break down where your avoidant potentially is after all this time. #fearfulavoidantattachment #dismissiveavoidant #avoidantex #theyalwayscomeback #avoidantcycle
He told me he wanted to change, become a better man for me, and work on himself because he felt lost. Then he ended our 3 years and 9 months relationship two days before my birthday, didn’t even wish me a happy birthday, blocked me, and now he’s suddenly seeking attention from other women. He actually just unblocked me, which makes it even more confusing.
What hurts is that for almost four years, I never had to worry about another woman. I was there for him when he had absolutely nothing, literally not a single dollar, and I supported him through everything. I even helped him get the job he has now, and he hadn’t even been there a month when everything suddenly changed.
I honestly don’t understand it, but I know my worth. I know how much I gave and the kind of heart I have. If he wants to seek validation elsewhere, that’s on him. I just know I deserve so much more. 🤍
2026-08-26 14:37:54
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vega :
I am waiting for my avoidant to come back so that I can reject them.
2026-08-24 23:27:20
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Kerry :
He got into a new relationship within 3 months of walking away, he has no way back, he broke me completely, I had to learn to eat again.
2026-08-26 22:29:35
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HiveMindSystem :
abusive attachment style
2026-08-26 15:01:42
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Elise :
He was in a relationship within a few days
2026-08-24 20:26:42
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yeah :
his birthday is coming up in a few days and we are a month into no contact. im going to try and hold strong and not reach out
2026-08-24 23:32:29
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Allie-Gator 🐊 :
He was fine, he’s moved on. Dating after less than a month. Which means he was already walking away from me
2026-08-24 21:27:24
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katzmeow :
Mine broke up with me 7 months ago, but has been keeping tabs on me ever since by driving past my house at night weekly when he has no reason to be on my street. I know avoidants EVENTUALLY keep tabs, but he's been doing it since the day he walked away. Instant regret, maybe?
2026-08-24 19:20:22
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Cake :
Am I the only one in here who isn't spiteful? lol
it sucks to be understanding and patient, yet denied my chance.
2026-08-25 20:08:31
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Jonathan :
they made their bed, now lay in it
2026-08-25 03:31:05
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𝒟𝒾𝒶𝓃𝒶 ♎ :
After two months she came back, asked for another chance, convinced me to give it to her, told me she loved me and wants to build a future together...only to breakup with me shortly after...via a text
2026-08-25 07:30:40
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That Russian Barbie :
Stand 10 toes down on the decision of leaving me. Goodbye
2026-08-25 00:45:22
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Sara :
Yeah what about 7 months of no contact lol where they at now?
2026-08-24 20:07:17
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Tman :
Stop giving people false hope they don’t come back
2026-08-26 07:38:20
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404gendernotfound_ :
It’s different when there are children involved.
2026-08-24 22:47:40
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Tony :
I was told this was her healthiest relationship shes ever had, plans of marriage, family, life. then out of nowhere she needs time to heal and mentally cant handle a relationship 🫠 i tried to be her friend, we made it a month but I couldn't stop loving her and I ended up getting jealous, heavily depressed, clingy. it hasn't been good, I over messaged, probably over stepped. I thought i was still something special to her... she blocked me today a month exactly after the breakup. all I feel like now is I ruined my forever and idk what to do anymore
2026-08-25 09:15:02
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rockland :
They just replace and restart cycle
2026-08-26 17:57:05
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aly_lea4 :
I label my ex of 4 yrs as a dismissive avoidant, but the day he broke up w/ me he told me he was emotionally/mentally disconnected… so could that mean down the line emotions could resurface? Its been 4 months since the break up
2026-08-24 23:11:59
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✨Tabatha✨ :
My avoidant partner dumped me last night after a conflict following me seeing my grandpa in the hospital, which may be the last time I ever see him. Instead of holding necessary space for me to be in my grief, he created an invisible issue, to which I wanted to discuss impact on as this simply was not the day to create relational problems. and that's when he decided I was too much and defective, and broke it off. I could tell he had been building a negative list against me based off the terrible, warped things he said. it was devastating. now I'm not only processing the potential death of my only grandfather but also my relationship, and the hurtful attack on my character.
2026-08-24 19:21:24
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yelnet41 :
He started reaching out again about 2.5 - 3 months after he broke up with me. He came up with a reason to see me, I got confused and asked if he wanted to hang out the next weekend. Then he pulled back again and said he didn’t want to lead me on — I was hurt and bombarded him with my feelings. I feel like we’re back at stage one again 🫤
2026-08-24 21:26:08
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Aystar :
It’s been a year haven’t heard anything think it’s just over atp
2026-08-26 02:01:42
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Roly :
It’s been almost 5 months since she replaced me with her rebound, about 2 weeks ago my friend met her at a party with her rebound. I guess they’re happy 👍🏻
2026-08-24 19:17:06
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Jim_Lahey98 :
So when she said she don’t love me anymore and is happier without me…she’s lying to me?
2026-08-25 20:34:41
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The Eel :
what if they're rebounding
2026-08-24 19:59:21
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xGhostx :
she's been in a relationship less than a month after breakup, don't think shes coming back, or even cares
2026-08-25 11:05:41
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