@mind_yourboundaries: 🙋🏻‍♀️ Have you ever confided in a parent too much about your partner and it made them feel uncomfortable? I made this mistake but corrected it once Ryan asked me to stop, since it was hurting his relationship with my mom and making him feel very uncomfortable. Another reason why I'd implement the 24-hour hold before he can call his mom or hash the marital fight out with a neutral buddy is because a lot of good energy to repair the rupture gets funneled out the back door to the wrong person. When you talk things out and get your validation, you might not feel as motivated to repair with your actual spouse. That hurts the relationship more by dragging on the fight. This husband might need to develop some self-soothing skills in order to successfully wait 24 hours, and if that's the case, a licensed therapist could be very helpful for him. Thanks so much for reaching out, and please keep us posted! PSA — This story was shared by one of you for educational and reflective purposes only, and is not meant to replace advice or treatment by licensed professionals. #storytime #boundaries #relationshipadvice #mamasboy #marriageadvice

Sissy :

I was once married to a man like this. She needs to get a divorce immediately. HE WILL NEVER STOP. I walked away after 3 years of this. His enmeshed dynamic with his mom...I call them Norma and Norman Bates. Period

Christine P :

First the hubby shouldn’t be doing that and second his mother should be telling him to stop

Jennifer Martin Carter :

As a parent , I have told my adult sons I don’t wanna know the problem that they have in their marriage because when they complain about their girlfriend or wives that makes me feel a certain way and then when they’re perfectly content in their marriage, I still have a bad taste in my mouth. I love my daughter-in-law don’t bring your negative shit to me about her. You picked her, lived with you for several years I know how you can be.😂😂😂

TheAlgorithmbroughtmetou :

The CORD on YouTube’s 💯

🌻 :

Knowing what I know now at 60, I'd say dovorce asap.

🎀MessiJessi🎀 :

She called me a sexual deviant and made him break up with me two days after his sisters wedding where I met his whole family

me.aw.82 :

My husband does this, but with his sister. I’m so over being the point of discussion. It feels like they are more of a couple than him and me

karalynn135 :

part of the marriage agreement is to leave your mother and father and be with your spouse. I would be so missed.

tammy :

RUNNN!!!

CharityDH :

Nope, men need a friend not their mother. She cannot be impartial and tell him what he needs to hear. There are things my husband and I don’t share with anyone else. We openly talk about issues in our marriage together. We have had rocky moments over the years and we’ve both shared frustrations with others like: “man he’s getting on my fn nerves today with his bs” or “she’s in one of those moods where I can’t do anything right.” lol but the private details are not shared with others.

victoriaradcliffe3 :

TheAlgorithmbroughtmetou :

Jill should watch this show 💯

TheAlgorithmbroughtmetou :

💯💯💯

hollypalooza :

Mama is not part of the marriage! Maybe some counseling would help

TheAlgorithmbroughtmetou :

Just the way toxic mommy wants him to be 😏

TheAlgorithmbroughtmetou :

Mama boy = mother ENMESHED man. Mommies little man of her house = emotional I ncest 💯

anneCnd 🇨🇦 :

gross

Island of Misfit Dogs :

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AmandaMan :

Oh my ex is an incestuously emotional relationship with his mother who hates me!It’s sickening.We divorced and then got back together cause I’m stupid and had a kid together.Then they plotted to try & drive me crazy to steal my child he went as far as to take videos of me having panic attacks while I was pregnant and not only did he take videos without my consent & without my knowledge he induced the panic attack he did 21 times.No wonder I had my child five weeks early(I also had a high risk pregnancy)so this fucker knew how bad it was for our unborn child.I found these on his phone cause I broke into his phone with his thumbprint(this was eight years ago)I tried to erase them.He said he was gonna have me arrested for it and I was like I’m leaving,we aren’t married,You didn’t sign the birth certificate.We can hash out custody in court.He said the surviving parent gets custody.I immediately got a restraining order as that was a threat to my life& left.to this very day he stays in his mom’s one bedroom apartment everyother weekend with my eight-year-old daughter when he has her and when he doesn’t too even though he rents a two bedroom.I know this cause we hired a Private investigator during modification of custody proceedings.It’s not normal.He had a therapist while I was pregnant, who told him to go no contact with his mother&how raising cortisol levels in my body while pregnant would hurt the baby.He did that shit anyway. I found out through evaluations ordered by the court that He’s a narcissist(so is his mom).I started dating six months after I left him & remarried when my daughter was three.After I got married, my daughter said to us her bio dad was married to her grandma.so my three year-old but her dad and grandma were married. Me and my husband laughed our asses off but had to explain to my child they weren’t married and please don’t refer to them as married again.When a 3 year old can see that dynamic of dynamic that I saw while I was married and I don’t talk about my ex around or with my kid who’s eight now. My suggestion fucking run. The mother-in-law might like her now but wait. It’s a whole another story when she turned on you and hate you. Run!!!!