@abbyeckel: De-coding what men actually mean: a series.

Brian101 :

So a man expresses his feelings like women as for and it’s still a problem 🤣😂

General Zod :

you shouldn't be together if you aren't centering on your partner

RedRoseAngel :

Mine has literally said this! My response was “we are suppose to. It’s called evolution….”

TheSeeker :

Or it simply means you are not who you once were and you are taking your own insecurities out on him because you overthink things

G.Gilbert :

There is a saying. Women marry hoping to change him. Men marry hoping she won’t change. Exactly the opposite happens. Don’t be fake in the beginning. Find someone who wants the real you and you won’t have that problem. The men would be happier too.

Bobby :

Anything but accountability for the woman

Mvyoung2008 :

at my house it's "I feel disconnected from you"

David Wodensson :

That’s not what that means

chr456 :

or maybe he feels a distance growing between you and is trying to talk about. and shouldn't your partner be a high priority for you?

Alex :

This. All of it.

shawnzellers1 :

It’s highly possible as I’m not a big fan of the vague concept of “you have changed” comment. What has changed, do you understand the change and why those things have changed. Usually with an attempt to get the person to return to a version of themselves that they use to understand or be able to control. There must be room for both people to grow and adapt in a relationship because we are not stagnant consciousnesses. We learn, we grow, we adapt and we make mistakes. I’m hesitant to declare to know and understand the direct thought and intentions of a person that does say it as only they know what they truly mean and hope to achieve through such a statement. It does however raise an alarm for me and would definitely look closely the motives behind said statement.

Sitch :

Who chose to center their attention on their husbands needs? How is that his fault?

groundroundofpound :

Or maybe he knows you are talking to Jodi because “your needs aren’t being met”. And Jodi is tagging that ass already

Unmarried Chronicles :

After my first child was born: you’ve changed because you love the baby more than me.

Mysterious Leg Bruise :

Anytime I’ve been told that I’ve changed I’ve replied with “thanks. Growth is wild isn’t it?”

formetoknow121 :

so move on and do it all by yourself only to later find out that's not what he means

sute.fani :

my husband said it "feels like we are misaligned". what he really meant is i am holding him more accountable while also centering myself.

coriereedspurling :

Yes, I’ve changed. I respect myself. My boundaries are stronger than my empathy for him.

AlexandraTitanic :

Yes! I started to focus being more independent and on myself instead of pouring everything I had into what he wanted. My husband would get worked up and throw the “you’ve changed” at me all the time but wouldn’t you want your wife to change and grow? We are getting a divorce

Serencryptidy :

"You changed" "Because you didn't."

agent_0521 :

Not really. A girl on Reddit just said “I don’t love my husband as much since I had a baby. “. Women cheered.

Phantomsoul❌ :

Jim Parnell :

Or he senses the change and is confused and hurt by it, try growing together instead of focusing in self. You either grow together as couple or grow apart as individuals.