@profahmedhankir: Don’t Make This Mistake With an Avoidant After an avoidant discards you, the biggest mistake you can make is internalizing their version of you. They may reinterpret your loyalty, commitment and need for consistency as “neediness” or “too much.” Reflect on what genuinely belongs to you—but don’t allow somebody else’s avoidance to define your worth. #avoidant #trauma #MentalHealth

Shardyclux :

💯thank you ,she cool today and avoidant the next time...but I need to keep Calm,no reaction,just stay quiet

N🧚🏻 :

Is too late now im blaming my self and i dont know who i am anymore

ver☆ :

thank you so much, sir 🥺 she broke up with me just yesterday and i am a mess

Toeknee :

DA makes you so damaged and confused. Your brain becomes mush with all the push pull and chaos

Dr Danyal 🩺 :

‘Never allow someone else’s avoidance to become your identity’ wow that’s powerful!

K. N.L.O. C :

horrific experience. it changes you so much. 😢

🇵🇸 Synthia 🇵🇸 :

He put me in therapy after his discard. 4 1/2 years wasted.

LynnM :

Yes , please let them go !! Do not self abandon yourself .

stuntchimp :

her loss. im a king.

OurOneSoul :

Looking different grasp attention. Getting bullied for it only means someone gets insecure to see how much attention you take away from them so they try to make you insecure by claiming what gave you attention because of your different look is a bad thing so that you act insecure towards new attention you attract and make you less likely to create friendships. No one likes to connect with who acts defensive as it makes us feel being judged based on your past experiences with others you now reflect upon us.

Claire Bear :

My dismissive avoidant husband of 35 years recently called me bipolar when I was stressed out by his more extremely distant behaviour! I thought he was cheating on me! So when I questioned him about it, we argued about it and then he said it to me during one of our unsuccessful marriage counselling session! 😔💔

Ray :

The worst kind of heartache... But I will stand firm, I've experienced heartache before but none like this, 3 yrs, 3 whole yrs planning a marriage and then boom he wants space.. Then I'm left with a silence that is so loud wow

Jugs :

Thank you yeah have to let it absorb it’s something wrong deep in them not us it hurts though and annoying they take no accountability

Äpple :

They are horrible

Sunshine :

Thank you for your advice 🙏🏼 it will help a lot of people. I wish I heard it earlier.

Kazzy :

So true especially when you get Limerance 😳

failed man :

Mary Jarvis :

yes thank you it has

Mo Mo :

thank you so much

Lolo :

always good advice

REAL VALUE REVIEWS :

Yep and it was all for nothing

Sadiyah Islam :

Shukran 💯💯💯 Professor for all the advice