@loudly.leo: Part 1 of deeply embarrassing things I did to get a GROWN man to act like a grown up in our home. #relationships #weaponizedincompentence #mentalload #patriarchy #separation

nwmagnolia :

I hear you!! (Did the same, I see you). But yes, we are freeee!!!

Low :

I used to do this to my spouse! Eventually he was like, babe, I makes me feel like a dumb kid when you thank me for things that should be expected as part of this house. I said Ope, valid point.

Katie :

They see it as it’s your job & by thanking him he’s going above & beyond, instead of just meeting you at halfway.

B🖤 :

" but we're free" 🦋 🦋 🦋

michiandivy :

I once had a guy tell me I need to be patient with him because he’s still learning and he can’t change over night. He was 37 🥴

ਅਵਨੀਤਕੋਰ 🍁 :

“Positive reinforcement” right

SugarK :

That words of affirmation love language be biting us people pleasers in the arse 😭

Jakob Rose 🥀 :

And they start to expect it, even if it’s just normal chores

Elle :

I was with ex for sixteen years before I realized I was trying to manipulate into treating me better. And it was noooooot working and making me feel like a terrible person to boot.

Brrrrridget💮 :

The script🥹

Lynniegenie :

When I was 18, I used to travel 1 hour back and forth to a bf’s house every weekend to basically be a free house maid- help his mom in the kitchen cooking, cleaning, ironing, etc. Every single weekend. For TWO YEARS. I now cringe whenever I think about how fkn dumb I was. But the silver lining is I’m now a great cook. 😂

Xol Jaramillo :

Tbf therapists even encourage this behavior in people

Maea :

LaTisha Osborne :

And I want you to try So that I can thank you for trying And then maybe that'll make you try some more

libranmoonmagick11-28 :

WEAPONISED INCOMPETENCE!! Men are amazing at it!!! 😏😏😏

DJSunflowerGirl :

💜💜💜