@mavereuer: since people were asking after my recent vid on signs that you’re easier to manipulate than you think, here’s how to make yourself more difficult to manipulate 

alexkipofficial :

Yes! Making decisions in peace gives you the awareness to know if it’s for you

Chicagosunroof :

Your content is really interesting

bloomgotta :

how do I deal with not feeling guilty whenever I don’t do something that is asked or expected of me?

Mariam :

I always feel really bad turning down my friends’ hangouts I really need time for myself and I’m just not the type of person who needs to meet up with friends regularly

Goodness_Inkspires :

Stop explaining your boundary!!!!

Doris :

Alright

⋆｡˚☽˚｡🧿Vivi🧿｡˚☾˚｡⋆ :

Sara :

Thank you so much for this 💖

Alison Nguyễn :

I think these points apply to family member who cross boundaries as well :)

birbaharakşamırastladımsize :

1- Stop making decisions under pressure. (widely used tactic by marketing people, last offer, last chance, price available only for a short time, discount only for 2 days etc.) 2- Learn to tolerate people being disappointed in you. Someone can be disappointed in you and you can still be making the correct/good decision! 3- Stop overexplaining your boundaries. 4- Judge patterns more than explanations. Good Intentions and explanations are important but patterns will help you predict what's going on to repeat again. 5- Separate empathy from obligation. Manipulation usually needs a psychological entry point. It can be guilt, rejection, loneliness, appearing selfish, losing approval.. What emotion makes you abandon your own judgment the fastest? That is the area you need the strongest boundaries!

Lilithai 爱 :

this is why its aways a drama with some

L :

The first one happened to me word for word, I’m south Asian and got coerced into an arranged marriage by time pressure, that if I take longer deciding I won’t have him as a option anymore, his mom would call everyday asking for a yes or no, I only talked to him once before the wedding and he’s 30 I’m 22. I feel crazy that I ended up saying yes when I said no for so long, it’s like I was under some spell,

Tay :

need to write this down 👑I am creating collection on Coersive control, manipulation and stuff like this.I already have some information in : time pressure create compliance ,and that the real option doesn't disappear under time limit, manipulation does.

Cutiepie :

Heavy on look out for patterns

Lil 🎃 :

user6714176983906 :

Love your content 🙏🏻

ella_moxley7 :

W I S E

Marieve | uni & migraine :

Love this!!

brioni2.2 :

💯

Odyssey of Enlightenment :

⚖️🖤💙💚💜❤️🧡💛🤍🪶

susanaismo :

💯

A :

😁😁😁