Anthony | How to People
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Michelle :
I feel like having exs as friends has the potential to make dating more complicated, have you navigated this?
2026-08-31 06:09:15
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Sw_native :
This even applies for friends that have feelings for each other and realize that it’s not a good fit. You can use the same tools because sometimes the friendship is worth more.
2026-08-28 13:30:57
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Mr dame is the name :
Sometimes close friends is not a realistic option and distant amicable support while respecting each others space is the only option for a long time being.
2026-08-28 04:54:27
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Yeah Nah :
There are 8 billion people in the world. Don’t stay friends with an ex. You are blocking your time and attention from a potentially new and more amazing friendship from being in that spot. You deserve better. You are disrespecting yourself by doing this. In time you will realise the better option would have been to just retain the good memories and leave it at that. There is no supply issue of decent people to form new connections with.
2026-08-28 09:35:33
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AaaAaa :
Yeah, uhm, no, I’m never going to talk to her ever again
2026-08-29 15:17:42
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Brain Rot :
My advice is to grieve it, that's what you're doing grieving a loss. there's big grief(someone dying) and little grief( a loss, like the job you wanted or a romantic connection) Feel it, be in it, just don't stay there forever or you'll lose yourself to it.
2026-08-28 17:05:11
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Emrys :
I disagree with not sitting with the feeling. To truly process emotions and move on from them you have to sit in the uncomfortable feelings. Just distracting yourself leaves them to be dealt with.
2026-08-28 16:20:49
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bliblahbluh :
I’m in a similar situation, don’t know exactly if he is open to staying friends, but I really want him in my life, because he is a good person.
2026-08-28 17:19:28
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Lord T :
my ex wanted to stay friends she is now in "the outer meme circle" 1-2 memes a month no words
2026-08-28 07:43:30
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Samantha | Your Honest BFF :
I love this for people but this is a hard no for me. I’m not interested in being someone’s friend. If I wanted to be your friend, you’d never have gotten into the romantic territory. If it doesn’t work, we go our separate ways. It is actually borderline insanity the amount of people who want to keep exes around as friends. Absolutely. Fucking. Not.
2026-08-31 03:47:55
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Gareth :
Would it be a hot take to say that staying friends with someone you once had feelings for is the emotionally immature thing to do?
2026-08-29 20:16:30
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Sarah Margaret :
Literally talked about this problem in therapy today, but didn’t come to any actionable steps. This is the video I needed, thank you!
2026-08-28 20:10:09
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Zane :
I usually just lose contact and mentally bully myself for years about it
2026-08-28 13:06:27
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A :
I don't know man, I feel there's enough suffering in life already, and enough other people to be friends with in the world, for me to have to force myself to go through something that hurts me and is not so necessary.
2026-08-29 14:07:33
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fuzzywuzzyonabike :
great advice but becoming friends with an ex is real "black belt" stuff from a relationship perspective. it's very tricky and something that many of us really struggle to achieve. it's pretty much everything you have described along with the additional gut punch of potentially watching them move on with someone else. it's definitely a tough one 💪💪💪💪💪💪 good luck 💪💪💪💪💪💪
2026-08-28 12:50:18
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. :
okay but how to deal with your ex potentially falling in love with someone
2026-08-28 17:14:05
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The Bear :
Wallowing: bad. Sitting-with-discomfort: required. Distract yourself from wallowing, but I would argue that distracting yourself from discomfort is avoidance, and slows healing.
2026-08-28 18:23:12
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Trin :
I love this sm
2026-08-28 05:33:31
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annaanseo :
this is excellent advice, thanks for sharing!
2026-08-28 06:36:56
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░m░a░t░t░e • Friend :
good luck, I can't go backwards like that. it's not me, the other person will be resentful
2026-08-28 14:40:23
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KittyAF :
It sucks SO MUCH, but this is possible even though it's hard.
2026-08-28 15:17:46
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Chaos Love Hub :
I hear and understand you, but you are requiring a level of self-knowledge and emotional maturity that a lot of people lack in the world. Also, been there, done that. I am friends with exes because a lot of them didn't suck as people, we just sucked as a couple. Especially my child's father. We are family forever, not just friends. But it was a long process to get to some healthy balance.
2026-08-29 03:57:43
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Amanda Messineo :
I think it really depends on the specific relationship. How deep the romantic bond, how more or less each person wanted the de-escalation, etc. So many factors. I was de-escalated with and having contact has been emotional hell for me. But I am learning, slowly
2026-08-30 21:41:57
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Asincrazy :
yeah, they wanted to yell at me because I wasn't emotionally available and immediately open to hanging out when they unilaterally decided we should be friends.
2026-08-29 20:09:27
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Still_Khalil :
there is literally no reason to do that
2026-08-28 17:44:13
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