@scott.austin.martin: When your partner says, “You hurt me,” what happens inside you? Do you immediately hear their experience? Or does your body translate it into: “You are a bad husband.” “You are not enough.” “You have to defend yourself.” In our coaching, we call that internal stance the Needy Little Boy. He lives inside interpretation. What does this mean about me? Am I enough? Does she think I am the bad guy? The Mountain is different. The Mountain can feel discomfort without immediately becoming organized around it. He can hear “you hurt me” without translating it into “you are a bad man.” He can get curious instead of defending. That does not mean abandoning yourself. It means your internal stability is not dependent on controlling someone else’s perception of you. Find Inner Stance at the link in bio. #relationships #menscoach #relationshiptips #nervoussystem #communicationtips

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