Mell✨
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Eda✨✨ :
We gotta be easy on ourselves 😭 trying to get rid of 1000+ years of conditioning is not easy. Ts is in ingrained in us
2026-08-28 23:27:46
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MY Inner Thoughts OR Yours!? :
I’m a relationship bird. Not male or female centered. I just love the idea of a genuine relationship
2026-08-28 23:05:55
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Karla :
When I catch myself saying “…but he’s not a bad person” I know I need to step back.
2026-08-28 20:07:44
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Gigi :
Yes I will admit. I love attention from them but don’t want to marry them 😂
2026-08-29 03:18:05
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operationluxury :
i wonder if one could decenter entirely when one still lives in a patriarchal society…
2026-08-28 19:31:38
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Instantnoodlee :
its crazy to me how ego death for women is thinking abt stuff extremely deeply, how their entire life has shaped them and look into themselves and ego death for men is discovering basic empathy 😭
2026-08-29 13:09:23
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Jw. :
A lot of women use “ but he’s not a bad person” as an reason the still f with them. He might not be a bad person but he did hurt you’re feelings or lead you on and that is enough to leave him alone
2026-08-29 12:07:10
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mani🦋 :
unfortunately it’s not possible to completely be not male centred if you’re a heterosexual woman lol
2026-08-29 09:12:15
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Jade✨ (spiritual baddie) :
i think it’s odd we as women have to consider ourselves “male centered” when in reality men’s mind games ARE confusing. is like we gaslight ourselves out of their own games and act like it’s something wrong with us. their games are meant to make us feel confused and question ourselves. these are normal responses
2026-08-29 13:31:44
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Kayla :
Our conditioning is really potent
2026-08-28 19:26:55
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MARP1ZZ4 :
Thank you for posting this. It’s important to call ourselves in. Thanks for reminding me that we can do that with love and compassion for ourselves which puts us further from being a bird. ♥️
2026-09-06 15:57:14
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znznajwhwvwvwhwhw :
Girls we r human beings .. human beings want partnership and that’s very normal.. let’s not be tooooo hard on ourselves
2026-09-05 18:43:20
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icequeenmoh :
thank you for sharing 😊..this was helpful ✨
2026-09-06 10:44:49
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Whimsical Black Girl :
Chile me too!! Omg. In the end I had to forgive myself.
2026-09-05 19:22:27
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cocoa_rose :
Male centerdness is like colorism, texturism, etc. It's something we will constantly have to unpack because it's deeply internalized. We all have different degrees of it even when you are aware of it.
2026-08-28 23:07:31
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kũitech :
I thought I was healed... TURNS OUT I JUST BEEN AVOIDING THEM.. I had to write that ish down, on paper n just look at what I was dealing with.. took me 2wks but that cleared that up real quick.. then I decided I'll not isolate myself again so now I'm out there and it's getting easier to spot, not their behaviour but mine.. like DAY TO DAY IM HAVING TO CHECK MYSELF
2026-08-28 18:55:43
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amber akilla :
I think the conditioning is so deep and preys on our desire to love and be loved. Men lack clarity in many areas too. I think awareness, intention and self-compassion are key! We’re only human and I think it’s more about committing to the practice of self-devotion and evolution than it requires overly relying on repressing or shaming. We’re human after all 😌😇🫶 it makes sense that you couldn’t comprehend that someone would be on BS if that’s not your natural disposition .. that’s an unfamiliar mindset and part of you can’t imagine another person is moving like that. Sometimes you just have to be like “couldn’t be me🤚” and keep it moving 😂😂
2026-08-29 09:46:57
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Mel Hamlett :
These videos are so important. No matter how long I’ve been doing this work, the minute I think I can’t get played or that I’m done decentering men/unforking my brain, that’s the minute I’m gonna get played . This work never ends and I’m always unlearning something new. It’s SO sneaky
2026-08-30 14:07:33
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thee_motherr :
I love your transparency
2026-08-28 18:26:16
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chinwetini :
You're so well spoken!
2026-08-28 19:24:48
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Anto_nella :
i always felt proud that I'm not male centered but lately I being feeling really bad that most men don't like me don't want me don't see me and the much that hurts even if I know that doesn't not define my value it hurts so much I don't know what to do
2026-08-29 04:41:17
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