@thepottymouthguru: One of the shittiest things about shame is how quickly it can make you leave yourself. Someone’s disappointed in you and suddenly you’re scrambling to prove you’re good. Explaining. Fixing. Performing. Apologizing for your entire existence. Doing whatever you can to make the feeling go away. And sometimes that works. They reassure you. They forgive you. They stay. But if your sense of okayness depends on getting that response, you’re still handing someone else the keys. This part of the work is learning that you can feel exposed, imperfect, misunderstood, even rejected…and still stay on your own fucking side. Not “I did nothing wrong.” Just: I’m not going to turn against myself because something went wrong. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #UNFUCKYOURSELF #THEPOTTYMOUTHGURU #ShameHealing #Shame #PartsWork
Someone make me come back to this video pretty pls
2026-08-31 16:30:55
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Mo :
Wow so helpful for me. I immediately for into flight 🏃🏽♀️💨 mode and leave the conversation. Which triggers them and reacts(takes it as rejection).
2026-08-29 04:58:44
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The Pottymouth Guru :
And staying on your own side does NOT mean automatically deciding you’re right. 😂 You can realize you were completely wrong and still not make yourself the enemy. That’s kind of the whole assignment. ❤️🤟🏻🌿
2026-08-28 18:09:34
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Meredith Riley-Smith :
So incredibly helpful, I love how you get into the nitty gritty
2026-08-28 21:09:51
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Erin the crone 🎨🖌️ :
Mistakes have always felt dangerous to me, but it was keeping me small. Now I'm actively training my nervous system to notice when I make a mistake and also notice that nothing horrible happened and that I'm not in danger 💖
2026-08-28 22:23:27
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Wejdan :
I love your content ❤️keep it up!
2026-08-28 18:19:45
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Thin Air :
Recently I've been working with the idea that if I don't get into the ring of life then I won't be able to get what I need. The thing about being in the ring is that yes sometimes you're going to fail or get hurt, but you're also going to succeed and get what you need too. Back when my RSD and dysregulation was worse failing in the ring was genuinely not worth the risk of being hurt, the pain of rejection was far far too powerful and outweighed any benefit. So I worked on reducing the overhead of what being rejected did to me. It still hurts but it's no longer at level where it outweighs the benefits and more importantly the needs of living life and being in that ring.
2026-09-01 17:27:51
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