Dr. Ruth | That Was Abuse
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Dee-Zyne :
I used to avoid my favourite things during really bad times so that I wouldn’t end up associating them with those feelings.
2026-08-28 20:16:51
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erin :
for me, i've been noticing that a good way i've helped myself cope is to go "well i'd rather be depressed with a good cup of tea than without it" and so it kind of takes the pressure off for the tea to "fix" anything
2026-08-28 23:14:30
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midwest emo fan :
You’ve worded this perfectly. I hate having fun when I’m depressed and it’s getting worse and worse these days. I’m trying to shut off the spiralling too.
2026-08-28 19:21:23
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Stepherson Starship :
NEEEEEWWWW ACHIEVEMENT!!! You questioned the internal monologue! REWARD: a bit of inner peace and some real shitty tea!
2026-08-29 01:02:53
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Ollieview :
for me it's food, and it's both costs. I have issues with food, but I also use it to regulate. The idea that I'll buy something I want to eat too regulate myself and it won't work feels like a huge cost both emotionally and financially. I can never seem to break the poverty mindset.
2026-08-28 22:21:34
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friz :
the way so much thought is put into the smallest of things bc of the past trauma - you deserve the perfect lavender fields honey tea with no second thoughts
2026-08-28 19:18:42
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Shannon :
I’ve been out of my severely abusive relationship for 15 years. I’ve been in a very happy and healthy relationship. My husband is sweet, and kind, and so understanding. Every now and then my brain still short circuits and I’m stuck back in that old mindset. I still flinch and jump, even though my husband has never ever ever raised a hand to me. Being abused rewires our brains. It creates life long damage. And it takes a lot of self patience and self care to over come.
2026-08-29 14:45:35
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Jazzy :
Love your mug!
2026-08-28 21:24:47
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AinsFails :
I have to remind myself that just because things are bad doesn't mean I'm not deserving of comfort. Is a new blanket going to make my life better? No. but I still deserve soft things.
2026-08-28 21:01:23
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alexsLittleStoreHorrors :
Happens to me all the time with my depression. Getting a chocolate bar or going for a nature walk, I do it, and still feel like shit. Now I've wasted the money or my time(some of these walks are 90+min), and feel like shit. I've telling myself if I didn't try then I'd feel even worse. Fighting depression isn't about feeling good, it's about not feeling worse. Keep trying to stop the decent and sparks of joy will appear.
2026-08-29 07:03:24
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A :
I'm struggling with my self worth. been working on rebuilding it while being bombarded with how I've hurt other people.
2026-08-29 02:11:35
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nancyknowskids :
Literally and metaphorically, seems like you could have home back and asked for the honey. You don’t have to pick perfectly the first time. You can edit/ adjust. 💕
2026-08-29 14:31:32
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sunshine Shar ☀️ :
it's not the monetary cost it's the mental cost....I get it!
2026-08-28 20:05:52
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Pinkcricket :
Loooooove the mug!
2026-08-28 21:38:09
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RennaSt :
oh damn that's relatable
2026-09-02 12:02:04
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Gabriella Muñiz Boba :
I relate SO HARD to this🥺
2026-08-29 15:28:59
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oxnyxws :
This is the true death spiral of depression- you try..and it doesn't so you stop and then your stuck.. it's a hard hole to climb out of
2026-08-29 03:39:31
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imthejb :
this articulates the struggle im having with my physical health. I know i need to lose weight because my body is struggling. but im not trying like I should be. because what if I try and its not enough and I dont get fitter and healthier and lose weight? what then?
2026-08-29 03:29:49
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Jesse Daniels :
I buy a pound of organic lavendar flowers and make my own tea. soooo good 🥰
2026-09-10 20:24:22
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Clare Sojourner :
I was talking to my therapist about the men I would get involved with after my mom died this week and I was having a really hard time putting into words the self-preservation mindset surrounding that pattern... but this feels like a metaphor for exactly what I was trying to get at.
2026-09-19 21:36:43
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Orange_EminEm🇨🇦 :
Getting things I want feels expensive. Wow.
2026-08-30 17:08:43
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Eirawitchling :
I felt this in my soule
2026-08-30 15:40:33
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GeorgiaButtons77 :
LOVE YOUR MUG! MONGO IS NOT APPALLED!
2026-08-30 10:57:22
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VonC86 :
Oh my god. I didn't know that's what that is. It makes so much sense... I never let myself have things because I'm afraid it'll be disappointing.
2026-08-31 15:18:24
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Ris :
Oh. Yeah, that's absolutely it. I usually just say I dont have the mental energy to risk it right now, but this was a great explanation and I'm going to send it to my humans.
2026-08-28 20:36:57
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