@courtneytspain: I ABSOLUTELY advocate for child support. Child support exists for a reason: children deserve financial support from both parents. If pursuing child support is what is best for your child (or if you are primary parent, etc) and your family, I support that 100%. #childsupport #singlemom #coparenting #highconflictcoparenting

EllieEmmy3 :

Hard disagree. As a child of divorce, you're kid deserves a reasonable amount if you're the primary custodial parent.

JEC :

If you have 50/50 custody you wouldn’t get child support anyways

momma2342 :

It’s actually a RIGHT for your child, despite what you think or believe

Tara Lynn :

We have 50/50. No child support. We pay 100% for the kids in our care

MsTabitha82 :

You provided while they were with you. He provided while with him. That’s co-parenting.

niciknowsnow :

Yeah that’s what I thought too until court let me know it’s not a choice I can make. I’m the legal guardian and childsupport is their money, not mine. It’s their right to have the lifestyle they had before and it’s the duty of the parents to make sure the kids have the chance to the same chances after separation

lisaperezmontoya :

good for u but the point of child support is to support the child that he would do if ur together its just financially....its responsibility but do u but every little helps when its just u....and its not about u and what u do its the responsibility that he has to the child...u dont want the money put in an account for the kid and give it to them when there older...again money for child not u

Trish :

Child support is for the child not you. Spousal support makes more sense to decline. It’s not based on time it’s based on income. So if he made more than you then California courts at least don’t let you decline child support because it’s not for you. But if you made the same they also and had 50/50 then the court also decides to not give you anything. That’s also not your choice. But not sure what state you’re in.

SincerelyShawnna🤎 :

That’s a small sacrifice for PEACE

merika_mamma :

People always tell me I am crazy to not have gone for child support. Like you, I left we split the kids 50/50 that’s it it’s done. Now my bills/housing/issues are just mine to figure out and deal with. FWD 9 yrs later we are THRIVING and we ALL get along and life is good 👏🏼

D🅰️N🅰️_💃 :

I don’t know what the issue is ? Her child is well taken care of by both parents, 50/50 what’s wrong ? If both are able to provide and keep the relationship healthy why criticize that ? Because she is financially stable????

appleuser39468255 :

Avoiding the court system is honestly the best way to go. The court should not be the first line of defense

Namasteyall :

Those things you mention have nothing to do with child support though. Did your ex work two full time jobs? Pay is not equal for men and women. The kids win when you have help from the other parent, it’s not the flex you think it is.

clairevsclaire :

In the case of 50/50 i completely agree that it makes ZERO sense for child support. ITS EQUAL!! can you tell this makes me mad… haha

Mama T :

It’s a silly choice but you are right! You deserve alimony

TikTokKath :

I think you guys are not understanding what she is saying here. If it’s 50/50 custody and each is responsible for the child when they have them, and both have a decent income then why would there need to be child support? Sure, there needs to be discussions on payments for extra-curricular activities, tuition, college fund etc.. but she doesnt have to put him on child support for that.

joan :

even if i had 100% i wouldn't even ask for anything. usually when child support is involved, there's more drama. i choose to have my kids in peace over fight in court every year.

Diary of a Feral Woman :

50/50 custody means no child support. child support should never be granted unless its abandonment or written into a pre nup.

Rosedale :

You seem like you feel you feel this is a superior stance. Depending on your state, child support is calculated based on each parent’s income. It doesn’t matter who decides to leave the marriage.

FLtaraNichole :

I honestly don’t think child support should automatically be based on who makes more money, especially when custody is truly 50/50. I understand situations where one parent stayed home during the marriage, gave up a career, or needs time to become financially independent after a divorce. But in general, I think both parents should be expected to contribute financially, and the actual expenses for the child should be shared as equally as possible. When I divorced, my ex-husband was an amazing dad, we just weren’t good as husband and wife. He took care of our girls, had them just as much as I did, and paid for things when they were with him. I never understood why, on top of doing his half of the parenting and covering expenses in his own home, he should automatically have to pay me additional money simply because one parent may earn more.To me, 50/50 parenting should mean 50/50 responsibility. Of course there are exceptions, and every situation is different, but earning more shouldn’t automatically mean you’re financially responsible for the other household

nicole.22 :

I also never asked for it. The kids are 22/19 now! I’m buying my first home alone next month! It can be done and it’s been so peaceful

☀️ MegTry ☀️ :

For 50/50 and one parent who is still required (understand you declined) to pay child support to the other parent is to level out the quality of living between both parents, and happens because one parent makes significantly more than the other. Why not take it now then when your income increases to match or exceed his, drop it? And for reference I’m in 50/50 and have to pay child support to my ex because I was the bread winner. I hate doing it but my kids also aren’t crammed into a one bedroom apartment cause that’s all he can afford.

Amber Lynn McQueen🤍 :

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Shelbie Jane Redd :

Plw84 :

It’s for your child, not you. No way your child will get the EXACT amount of financial privilege that they would have had under one household, even doing 50/50 custody. He should be paying child support or putting it into a savings account.