@sittingwithlauren: Our nervous systems are shaped by relationship. We can want connection and also be terrified of being hurt - again. Those two wants aren't necessarily contradictory. They just speak to different needs. That makes sense. We can practice listening and understanding both needs. ❤️ If the you’re curious about this approach, I’d invite you to explore my somatic parts work courses: For clients: Befriending What Feels Stuck - It's a gentle introduction to understanding your protective patterns through parts work, the body, and nervous system — with teachings and experiential practices to help you actually explore this in your own system. For clinicians: Moving From Insight to Integration - A practical, embodied approach to bringing somatic awareness, parts work, nervous-system understanding, and the therapeutic relationship together. Links in my bio ❤️ #nervoussystem #disorganizedattachment #disorganizedattachmentstyle #attachment #somatictherapy

everywhereinbetween1 :

GURL this is entirely me in therapy (not my fault, on my 3rd session with her I finally felt safe enough to lock it in and after I talked for 10mins abt my past experiences with trashy MH professionals in the past and being dropped, she says "U R right I have resigned" um wtf lol. so then I was vv convinced hypervigilance and pre-emptive guessing is a NEED.) - we're good now, she gave me exact instructions how to reconnect and it was a painful 3.5 week wait that felt twice as long, but we finally got things settled late last month. I've since been at her new place twice now, but I *still* struggle with "YAY I trust you 1% more thank you 🥹🥺" anddd "R U GNA LEAVE?" (it's shared private practice so essentially its like smolbiz but also I would assume these places have a minimum lease? I'm not in Canada or the US though haha. She started like, a month ago, and I'm scared already LOL.) then I'm externally 30smt (I think I'm a year older than you - after Math-ing out from your old videos), but then internally when I feel brave in session I sparkle like an inner 6yo feeling safe to stop hiding. AAAAH. then it ends up with me being scared and tantrummy and my T being the most level-headed person, saying in the gentlest affirmation that I don't deserve (😑🙃) - that everywhereinbetween, your distrust in me is understandable but not helping, I just got here, we'll do this together AND I told you I'm not dropping you. She actually said "not gonna reassure you" and switched topic. just like that. I was impressed. hahahaha. Therapy on Thursday, still scared but also thankful for it? she's like #safebutscary. hahahah