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Briashubby :
If the player isn’t paying attention, the character isn’t paying attention.
2026-09-12 16:23:43
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Lustie :
Not only is fair, I'm stealing this.
2026-09-12 20:40:11
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XA44 :
if your combats are so boring that you can't keep a player engaged, your combats probably suck
2026-09-13 11:37:17
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Ildsverd :
If this has been something the player has been warned before, than yes, if this was not a previously discussed issue, then it is more iffy
2026-09-12 23:51:01
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Lae'zels wife :
depends, how long do the other players take to do their turns
2026-09-14 15:26:01
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Belgear :
Nah, people should be able to take a moment to themselves. specially when it can be 10-15 minutes between turns. no offense but, dnd combat isn't that riveting. most of us are playing to RP in the tavern
2026-09-13 22:11:17
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Zenn :
i need way more context. cuz this sounds very odd to act like grown adults cant have their phoned at the table. distractions and life happens. if theyre constantly doing this, i still wouldnt punish them in the game for it. id take it offline and address it like a proper dm. talk to them. ask them if there is a reason theyre not as engaged and if theres a way i can make it more enjoyable and immersive for them or suppprt them. dont be a dick to your players.
2026-09-14 02:26:12
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TheOGWulfman🇨🇦 :
sounds fair to me. if they aren't pay attention out of game then they aren't paying attention in game. the only exception id have to this is if they have to use the bathroom.
2026-09-17 00:11:47
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Tiny :
I use a timer system, you have 5 minutes to tell me your action. You get extensions if you are stratagising or realise things won't work. This just keeps things flowing because I had one player who would literally take 10+ minutes to do something every round
2026-09-17 08:29:02
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Andrew Coffey :
totally fair. why are you on your phine? thats so disrespectful to everyone at the table
2026-09-13 13:55:53
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pixelated :
that's what my DM does
2026-09-17 07:38:42
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shifer aldor :
I agree completely if I'm on my phone and I walk into a Pole that's my fault.😂 If you're playing monopoly, and you don't notice someone land on your property, you don't get paid.👈 It's not My job to let you know I have to pay rent.
2026-09-16 21:32:13
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☽✧Ash✧COMMS OPEN✧☾ :
Depends. We've had a single player spend 20-30 minutes debating his turn with others at the table instead of doing something and this isn't a one off incident. During those, a couple of us usually get on our phones to wait for him to finish his turn. He's 1 of 6 of us 😑
2026-09-15 18:25:44
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Erik :
„He looked up from his phone“ yeah no I get why you did it. Like I get using your phone when you know it’s not your turn, but they better know what they’ll do on their turn and be conscious enough to act as soon as it’s their turn.
2026-09-16 22:26:34
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JunTheFool :
Just be a better dm and not have boring combat
2026-09-13 17:59:22
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Sabrina Nichole :
"you take 23 damage" "what?! why" "because your character was busy digging in their pack and didn't pay attention to the bbeg standing directly in front of them"
2026-09-15 13:22:13
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inJoebitably :
If it's a veteran player: fair. If it's a noob (maybe they were reading their character sheet, or something equally valid) : too far. Either way, if you set this expectation with the party at the start of the campaign, then follow-through is absolutely necessary.
2026-09-12 22:08:38
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Lazuli :
Depends is he doing something completely random or is he using an app for Spells and is trying to figure out which spell to use?
2026-09-14 21:08:17
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Gr8Scott :
If youre there to play dnd then play dnd. Dont ruin it for the other players. If its a rare occurrence then I wouldn't but if it is frequent then its totally appropriate
2026-09-12 19:34:12
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fairplayjay :
Completely fair. Now he can take his time getting caught up. Or flayed. Whichever comes first.
2026-09-13 15:48:12
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ItsClutch :
How many creatures were in the encounter/how long was there between turns?
2026-09-13 16:00:16
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TheTomasTully :
bad dms love being bad dms.
2026-09-13 13:51:44
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Gregory Wright :
depends on the context the DM could be shitty, the player, or both
2026-09-12 16:27:38
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BurtMcGurtMinis :
it sounds like you explained exactly why in THIS video, and with all the evidence needed.
2026-09-13 16:03:07
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alexarosegm :
Whether or not it’s fair depends on what is happening to make combat so bogged down that players’ attention is being lost.
2026-09-12 22:28:42
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