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Peggy Esche :
Yep. My soon-to-be ex-husband a number of years ago saw me cleaning the toilet on Mother's Day. He said I shouldn't be doing that on Mother's Day and to relax. Mind you he didn't do it either. So I still had to clean it the next day. So what difference did the day make? 🙄
2026-08-30 15:02:15
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GreymatterGirl :
And god forbid you get the flu or something and are down for days. The work just piles up and waits and ends up being what you get to look forward to doing as soon as you can move again. 😭
2026-08-30 15:03:59
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Summer Kalinowski :
I have told my husband multiple times that even if I laid down for a “rest” I’m not gonna feel rested so I might as well keep pushing through and getting crap done because I’m going to be exhausted either way 🤷🏼♀️at least when I power through, some of the things get checked off my list for the day!
2026-08-31 02:35:14
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Lindsey Santiago :
Sleep when the baby sleeps is a very privileged statement reserved for those who have help or understanding partners who actually pitch in and don’t just use their job as an excuse to not parent
2026-08-30 15:08:11
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Abigail Elizabeth :
"hey what do you make them for lunch" "hey where's this" "hey where's that" 😭😭
2026-08-30 13:34:53
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VioletSky🌿 :
This. Delaying it just means your nervous system swimming in cortisol for that much longer.
2026-08-30 15:58:39
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Jinxx🌈 :
I got mad at my husband today bc we were arguing about my "day off". Saturdays I go to my dad's from 12 to 5. he's in his 70s. the entire time I was gone he was streaming on TikTok. I told him the entire reason for my break, is so he DOES STUFF. not just chills and waits for me to come clean and cook
2026-08-31 03:47:54
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Chaos Goblin5232 :
I have told my husband many times I'm not allowed to be sick. When I'm sick the work waits for me. It's like he decides if I'm "resting" then he gets to rest too.
2026-08-30 16:24:12
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MessieJessie123 :
My husband finally woke up once when I was stressing over my kids birthday party. He said “relax. It will get handled”. I said “yes it will. By me. I handle the food, decor, invites, presents etc” It definitely woke him up
2026-08-30 16:15:36
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sistasisii :
I live alone and childfree so its only my shii thats piling up
2026-08-31 01:10:44
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Sarcastrophe :
They don’t finish the sentence, “…and I’ll take care of the chores.” Because you’re right, they’re saying you rest like they’re doing you a favour. They’re not, they’re making it sound like love and care, when really, they’re just saving work for you to do later while trying to look like loving partners when this costs them nothing.
2026-08-30 09:21:50
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Sae Bjorgvins :
exactly this. I got up just before midnight to do the dishes and put on a load of washing while the power isn’t at a premium. And still wake up to get the kids ready for school the next day. It doesn’t end
2026-08-30 23:05:53
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TheB*tchIam :
no its that hour my kids have to come check on me to make sure im ok and havent died in my sleep... "mom you ok?", "mom i love you.", "mom are you still sleeping?" "mom are you gonna get up?" literally only been an hr.
2026-08-30 15:19:02
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Ariel | Cushings Companion :
My thoughts: No one tells a drowning person they should rest, but they dont recognize that we're drowning.
2026-08-30 17:59:07
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Jessica :
Yes exactly!!! You should rest just means, you rest up so you can just do it later. No thanks!
2026-08-30 14:44:21
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mana_wahine00 :
💯 so when you say "you rest" it's followed up by "...while I do three loads of washing, cook dinner and lunch for tomorrow and clean the bedroom and bathroom.
2026-08-31 00:11:46
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Schtefff 🇨🇦 :
“Just sleep when the baby’s sleeping” while everything piles up? Also, I would love to exist as a separate human for a sec, please?!? Maybe while the baby is napping I just want to shower and watch a quick show. It’s like our only options is take care of the kids and clean and sleep.
2026-08-30 10:54:24
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Debby Rice901 :
Accurate
2026-08-30 15:02:15
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Amanda 🇦🇺 pink hair :
It’s stupid and painful and unfair
2026-08-30 08:04:32
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💖SweetnSourSusan💖 :
i begged for help, he said "don't worry about it", but it's still there for me later.
2026-08-30 15:42:57
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Logic Wizard :
So my spouse and I had an agreement. When I got home from an eight hour work day, she “clocks out” for a break while I handled her activity where she left off, be it children wrangling or housework. I’m still in a working mode from work, so I am still task-oriented. She got a break when I get home because I recognized that she works where she *lives*, and that’s a brutal environment.
2026-08-30 16:08:18
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Mom :
My husband once asked me, during a particularly suffocating season of life, “What can we do to get you more Me time?”, and the only answer I could give was, “By punishing future me.” In our particular case, I was a full-time stay at home mom to a whirlwind of a child (a delightful one, but not an easy one), and he was working absolutely insane hours - 60-70 hours a week. He was an engaged and loving dad during the hours he was home, and would often take her out to do something on weekends so I could try to dig out from the pit, but the domestic duties were quite literally impossible for me to keep up with, and if I didn’t do them, they simply didn’t get done. We basically just lived in a state of semi-squalor until she started school and I had a few child-free hours a week, but I remember him asking me that very genuinely, and thinking it was just not fair to expect him to get home after working a 14 hour day and clean the house. If we’d had enough money to outsource some cleaning it would have helped, but there was no budget for that. Now, years later, all I can think about are the women who are doing EVERYTHING - working full-time, doing all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the childcare, while their lout-of-a-husband plays video games, or hangs out with his buddies, and thinking how GOOD I had it, in the season I WAS DROWNING. If I had it good WHILE I WAS DROWNING, how on earth are women surviving when their husbands AREN’T supportive and loving and participating?!?
2026-08-30 15:00:24
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Jo :
I’m so sick of “just take a break!” When I’m tired and still cleaning up…why? So I can worry about it and do it later while I have other things to do too?
2026-08-30 15:37:42
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KelliLikesGirls :
and men and children continue screaming while you are "rest"
2026-08-30 16:13:14
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Stellaluna :
my sister had to work today. her husband was recently retrenched so she told him to take charge of the kids activities. he took one to rugby and told the 9 yr old to cycle to basketball practice (30 mins away in heavy traffic). the 9 yr old got into an accident and broke his arm so my sis had to take time off work to go look for him (via a tracking device) and bring him to the ER. If my sis had been in charge (as usual) she would have brought them both to their activities herself.
2026-08-30 10:22:35
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